Child ran away from DS

[Orangedreams]

I was walking DS up to school this morning. He’s 4 and started reception in September. He has asd and adhd. He loves to run so he usually runs off a little bit ahead of me. There was a child from his class just in front of him and when she saw him she jumped and hid behind her dad.

I felt a bit upset by this as I’d hate if he scared anybody. He’s been doing really well in school and I’ve not had any complaints from the teacher.

I noticed the dad gave me a dirty look as I walked past which was uncomfortable.

Any other parents with children with asd who have been in situations like this and if so, how to handle them. Just ignore? It’s hard not to feel judged

You dont know what look the parent gave you, thry may habe had a million things on their mind to be bothered to give you any look specifically

You know only what you have made up in your head about them

I would have done this myself as a child, for sure. It doesn't mean that particular child would have done anything to me.

If you're concerned about how he's doing with the other children generally, for sure a conversation with the teacher would put your mind at rest.

It’s totally impossible to say, as others have said a quiet word with the teacher should uncover if there are any problems.

Maybe she’s shy and weird about meeting non-school friends outside of school - DS was definitely weirded out by seeing nursery teachers out of context and used to hide from them out of embarrassment (was fine with them in the actual nursery).

Maybe she was just scared of getting into trouble with her dad if she ran ahead, too? Most people insist their children stay close/hold a hand on the school run to avoid the risk of running in the road etc. [I am a parent and ex child minder - children always required to walk close/hold hands and not run off/at all].

The dirty look from dad may have simply been judgement that you didn’t have your child under control and that it undermined his efforts with his child?

What you saw may be more about the dad and his child than you and your child. Up to you how your parent your child, so you need to learn to shrug off encounters like that.

My daughter at that age hid behind me whenever we ran into anyone even children she liked. She didn’t like her friends to come and say hello. She wanted to go to them when she was ready to play. It may be about her.

I think you're over reacting, Kids that young are not always happy with that sort of thing.

Are you sure it was a dirty look? He could have just been talking in a mood? Some people have grumpy faces!

My reception DD hides behind my legs whenever she sees anyone from her class on the walk up. You're overthinking

I've been in a similar situation, it's so sad. My little boy is autistic and very limited speech, he goes to children at the park with a big smile on his face and makes sounds. This is him wanting to play, younger children are fine but some of the ones his age are older look at him like he has 10 heads and I've had one run away from him. Some parents are great, some also give him a funny look, 1 has led their child away. We've started going to SEN groups and it's such a different experience, all the children play nicely alongside each other, no judgement from parents. It shouldn't be that way, disabled children should be accepted everywhere but unfortunately they're not.

Well it could be a million things. Maybe she is an anxtious child, maybe she doesnt like boys, there could be loads of reasons. Therefore, I wouldnt worry about it unless you hear otherwise.

Honestly as a parent of an ASD and ADHD child, you are going to have to grow much thicker skin because the road ahead is full of fighting just so your child can get half a chance. I wouldn’t pay any attention and just ignore it, if it continues to bother you ask the other parent if there is a problem and a reason why he is looking at you in that way.

Massively overthinking this one op