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Would you report this to 101

16 replies

Luco2 · 02/10/2025 00:48

Was walking with my DD and my DD friend onto my drive way. They are 6 A group of boys went by on bikes. They were singing loudly and my DD friend told them to ‘shut up’. One of the boys on the bike said ‘don’t tell me to shut up or I’ll come back to your house with a hammer’. I didn’t say anything as obviously they saw we were walking up the drive way and didn’t want to escalate it in case they came back. They are older, I think maybe early secondary age. I vaguely know where they live. Would you report this? I found it threatening especially worse as it was said to a young child.

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SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:51

What a waste of police time. Also perhaps teach your DD not to be so gobby.

MidlandsGal1 · 02/10/2025 00:53

SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:51

What a waste of police time. Also perhaps teach your DD not to be so gobby.

Read the OP again

Luco2 · 02/10/2025 00:53

SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:51

What a waste of police time. Also perhaps teach your DD not to be so gobby.

Well, they’re often hanging around acting unsocial annd obviously this was a threat to a much younger child. Also, if you re read it says my DD friend was the one to speak to them. My DD didn’t say anything at all

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CherrieTomaties · 02/10/2025 00:54

Personally I wouldn’t.

The boy in question sounds like he’s been dragged up, and has probably heard similar language at home, and was most probably just saying it to show off and look “hard” to his mates.

I hope you and both girls are okay though. It’s not nice to hear a threat like that as it is unnerving. BUT- his comment was in retaliation to your daughters friends comment. If he had threatened your house for no apparent reason then I’d probably report it.

The boy will have most likely forgot about the encounter now. Little shits like that are always in dramas. Try not to worry too much about it.

SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:54

Ok, well the DDs friend needs to learn not to be so gobby

SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:55

Luco2 · 02/10/2025 00:53

Well, they’re often hanging around acting unsocial annd obviously this was a threat to a much younger child. Also, if you re read it says my DD friend was the one to speak to them. My DD didn’t say anything at all

You said singing loudly. Singing isn't classed as antisocial?

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 02/10/2025 00:58

Fuck About and Find Out as they say -
Try don’t be such a gobby mare!

young people on bikes in the fresh air should laugh n joke and lark about as much as they want within reason in public spaces - they weren't sat in front of her in church at a funeral or at the opera fgs!

Luco2 · 02/10/2025 00:59

SabrinaDontYouKnowDevin · 02/10/2025 00:55

You said singing loudly. Singing isn't classed as antisocial?

Sorry, not the singing, I mean often hanging around unsocial like shouting and swearing etc. I should have added that to the OP. But it was more so the threat that I was worried about

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AbzMoz · 02/10/2025 01:01

If you felt uncomfortable saying in the moment ‘oh lads knock it off - these are only little girls..
’ then I don’t really see how a police report is compatible with your desire to not escalate?

It boils down to if you think of this as a credible threat or if the general and ongoing behaviour of these lads is something you think the police need to address. Singing and riding bikes just sounds like larking around; being aggressive to residents unprovoked is a different matter. Maybe a more appropriate avenue is a neighbourhood police forum?

EmeraldRoulette · 02/10/2025 01:15

I think this is getting derailed

Regardless of how it happened, one of them said that he would come back to your house with a hammer

I understand why that's worrying. Only you know how bad these lads are likely to be and whether or not it's worth reporting it.

RoseAlone · 02/10/2025 02:28

It's not a big deal and the friend needs to be quiet

bluebettyy · 02/10/2025 02:32

I wouldn’t. How stupid for your dd friend to do that right outside your house though.

ChippyDale · 02/10/2025 02:48

I cannot believe the answers on this thread! A teenage boy threatening a young girl to come for her with a hammer, and you all say the little girl should shut her mouth?! Are you all not ashamed?!?!?! Fucking hell!
I'm sorry OP, don't listen to these fucking nut cases excusing the boy's threats of violence, he's a little shit and I'm sorry he scared you and the girls. I wouldn't report it to the police but I'd try to find out which school he goes to and if sth happens again, I'd report it to his school.

mummytrex · 02/10/2025 03:00

@ChippyDale agree. Weird responses / attitude to the reaction of a six year old child to a group of older boys.

Even if the girl's comment was unjustified, threatening to return with a hammer is entirely unjustified! Rightly or wrongly in your shoes I probably wouldn't report, purely because they know where you live and from what you've said there is a risk this could escalate as that type of person is unlikely to heed and police involvement (if the police actually did anything).

DrowningInSyrup · 02/10/2025 03:13

bluebettyy · 02/10/2025 02:32

I wouldn’t. How stupid for your dd friend to do that right outside your house though.

Edited

She's 6 fgs

NellieElephantine · 02/10/2025 06:44

It is a strange situation though.
Why did the boys singing result in the rude and obnoxious 'shut up' from the 6 yo?
Their response was disproportionate though.

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