This is really getting me down. I have to work with a woman every week at work. There’s a slight power imbalance in that she’s staff and I’m on an contract and therefore does hold more power over me although she shouldn’t. She’s also twenty years older than me and the other colleague in our small team and it feels like another way of asserting superiority / dominance.
my issue with her is that on the one hand, she can be very nice and charming but she’s also constantly spikey. Every other comment can be a barb if she disagrees/doesn’t like what you say. It’s not personal. She’s like this with everyone. But I’m exhausted. It’s draining and really getting me down and I’m starting to realise that actually she is just deeply unpleasant and a bit bullying.
I am probably going to get flamed for this but she is also a vegan, anti the flags, pro Palestine but actually I think she’s just awful, completely hypocritical and doesn’t embody the values she claims to espouse whilst shooting down others she deems as unworthy. I am black and I was lectured last week about how awful the flags are, how intimidating they are, that it’s “disgusting” as they appeared on some streets near us. I found the way she spoke to me about it really offensive. Just faux handwringing. She then told me that I should write to the boss of our company asking when they’d be taken down outside our building (it’s nothing to do with him as it’s not on our property) because he would listen to me than her. ( he won’t . ) then she told me I didn’t seem very upset by the flags.
I’ve been furious all week. She’s generally very difficult and I dont think she’s changed or got worse. I’m just struggling to deal with her more and more.
I see her several times a week and I just really hate her.