to be annoyed at my sister?

[kayzisexpecting]

I am expecting to be told to mind my own business but I wanted to know if I was just worrying about nothing.

My sister is 30 so is old enough to make up her own mind and I know this but I think she is being a bit silly.

She has gone down to Windsor(I think) to meet some man on the internet that she has been speaking to for about a week. This isn't the first time she has done this but she has taken her daughter, my neice. She is 8 and has been taken out of school all this week and some of next week unless she comes home early. She doesn't know this man and as much as I doubt he is a horrible man but you never know. There have been some horror stories in the past.

I have nothing against meeting men online, I met one of my exes on there and he was a nice bloke but I had no kids then and I took my Dad with me the first couple of times we met just incase.

My Dad knows where she is but her mum(we have different mums) think she is in Norwich(they live in King's Lynn) and that my neice is with her Dad for the week and at school. So my Dad has to lie to his ex wife which he hates and my niece is missing school.

There was a different man last month and a different one the month before that.

I know I should keep my nose out but my sister has been warned loads of times about my neice missing school.

Am I worrying about nothing?

TIA

sounds like you're more concerned than annoyed! Its not unreasonable at all I don't think. Very wrong, imho, that she's taking an 8 year old out of school for te jaunt and letting her meet a stranger, but that's not my business and sadly not yours either!

YANBU though!

YANBU to be annoyed at her, it sounds like she's acting like a teenager not a grown woman and mother. But I don't know what else you can really do aside from telling her how you feel about it. Have you tried talking to her about it?

Cheers Mo, I wasn't too bothered before as she'd leave my niece with her Dad or with my sister mum but she is now refusing to have her so my sis can go off with various men.

Yes Mumooms but she just says its her life and she can look after herself. Which is fine but not a good life for an 8 year old.

I agree completely kayzisexpecting, she should not be disrupting her daughter's education like this, not to mention the possible dangers. She sounds irresponsible taking her daughter to meet (and stay with?) a man she only knows from the internet.

Yes they are staying there too Momooms.

Oh my goodness how worried you must be.

Has she left any details with anyone in case anything happens?

Why on earth would she go with your DN?

Does your niece's dad have any idea that this is going on? Would he maybe step in and tell her how irresponsible she's being, or is that not feasible?

And preferably take charge of the poor girl until her mother gets her act together a bit!

Don't know Squack, I don't think so. She has just told Dad its in Windsor and thats it.

I don't know why she has taken DN she has never taken her before.

YANBU - if I was just her there would be nothing you could do and it would be none of your business. But this is your neice she is taking out of school and potentially putting in danger. I would be annoyed and concerned but I am not sure what you can do about it?

I dont know Mumooms. He has only just started to see her and my sister dumps my DN on him whenever he isn't working.

She used to give her to her mum but she won't have her now because she doesn't like my sis going off all the time.

None of us thought she would take DN with her.

YANBU. Words fail me kays.

TBH it sounds to me like your sister has some issues, why is she dumping her daughter on other people all the time? The poor girl must be affected by that. I think she needs to come to terms with the fact that she has responsibilities. Did she have her daughter at a young age?

She was 22/23 and she was the result of a one night stand. She will tell anyone who listens that DN was a huge mistake and her life is ruined.

She got married when she was pg and he was lovely and she seemed settled and very happy then he went mad and became an arsonist. Burnt loads of stuff down. He went to prison and when he came out she forgave him but it didn't work.

DN is terrified of sirens(understandably) but sis acts like DN has ruined her whole life but then says in the next breath that she wouldn't be without her.

DN's Dad had just decided he wants to know her but she has always seen his parents. She will call anyone and everyone Dad as there have been so many men in and out.

She sounds awful frankly. And I think you are worried about your neice rather than annoyed with your sister. Is there anyone who could step in?

I dont think so nkf. Whenever anyone says anything she just says its her life and she'll do what she wants.

YANBU. To try and help your niece, is there anyone in the family who could have your niece to live with them, to try and give her some stability?

Only her Dads parents really. My Dad works long and strange shifts and my sisters mum is a nurse so also works long hours including overnight.

I think we are going to have to get together somehow and talk to her.

I think it is time your niece's father was told.

Do you know exactly where they are now and that they are okay?

No not a clue. She text my dad to say they got there ok and that the castle looked huge. That was yesterday.

I think he is ringing her this evening to check they are ok.

I have just rung her as I might be going to visit this weekend and they are fine and should be home on friday.

Still annoyed though.

Any news?