To think if a man ghosted you, you should never take him back, even if he comes back “changed?”

[FlakyRaven]

If he could disappear once, he can do it again. Why give someone the chance to show you their cowardice twice?

Yep,

The old saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" seems quite fitting

Totally agree. YANBU.

If you take him back, the only way he can prove he won’t ghost you again is by never ghosting you again for the rest of his life. Which is probably a bloody long time to waste, sorry, wait!

100% don't let them back. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them.". Ghosting demonstrates so much from immaturity and cowardice to bad communication and no respect for you being a person with feelings.

Ignore or politely decline.

Yep, happened to me when online dating, meet a git we got on like a house on fire, went on a date, all good. Due to go on a second date and he just wasn't responding to any messages. Then all of a sudden, reappeared about a month later.

He'd lost his phone apparently, yeah right!

Bellend!

Totally agree. I went out with someone for nine years then he suddenly disappeared except for a fortnightly late night text. Then he wondered why I blocked him. A few weeks ago (more than a year later) he posted a handwritten note through my door saying it would be good to hear from me! No thank you 😐

And yes they always come back and yes they always disappear again.

Yes unfortunately it’s a pattern of behaviour which will be repeated.

My mate is online dating, It’s happened a few times with totally plausible reasons. They ALWAYS ghost again. She’s finally learning.

Agreed. The sort of person who can't have a conversation isn't worth knowing.

Who’s asking you to take him back?

Don’t do what I did and continually take someone back who had form for ghosting. It never ends well.
They have no respect for you. And don’t care how it makes you feel.
If they wanted to contact you, they would. When they don’t it’s because they’re just not that interested in you.