What’s given you the work ick?

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I’ve started a new job recently and was surprised at how quickly I lost respect for certain colleagues. My manager regularly doesn’t show up for meetings she scheduled and just leaves you sitting there. Another colleague vapes through every meeting like it’s completely normal. It’s not the end of the world but it definitely gives me the ick and now I can’t take them seriously.

So AIBU to feel this way? And what are your workplace icks?

HR encourages management to record a detailed list of sickness symptoms when we call in sick. This prompts visibly sick colleagues who WFH to overshare at the 9am team meeting.

Literally everyone and everything. I’m 59 in January and will be retiring at 61. There’s not a single day something isn’t giving me the ick. The way they write emails, sending emails at 5.29 on a Friday to demonstrate you work the full week, telling everyone how busy you are all the time, slamming your office door when I’m trying to concentrate, making a point of saying you can’t take all your leave because you are so busy etc etc.

My colleague telling me he had sex which is why he was late, and he once said he only ever shits at work. Nice guy but no boundaries.

As soon as someone sends me a Teams message just says ‘Hi Bauhaus’ and no other hint of what what they need me for, I immediately cannot bear them. Also ‘Have you got five minutes?’ without telling me what the five minutes is actually going to be for. If it’s five minutes in which you’re giving me a

Not showing up for meetings

Cancelling last minute

Being late for your own meeting

Never, ever having lunch with their team. Ever.

Actively looking at their watch, sighing, and literally leaving as soon as they have finished eating at the Xmas lunch

I could go on

WhatsApp group chats with colleagues. Please just leave me in peace!

Managers who use corporate bullshit . In my last ever appraisal meeting my manager went through the entire gamut: -

Outreach activities
The main event
The exigencies of the service
Blue sky thinking
I hear what your saying
We're singing from the same hymn sheet
Its not rocket science
Keep me in the loop
To see the wider picture
It is what it is
You seem to have lost your mojo
Structural changes in the profession

And thats just what I recall offhand. His face was a study when I told him that we would never have this conversation again because I would not be there. Six weeks later I resigned to go to uni. My resignation was an unembellished one sentence letter.

Working in a school and staff talk like the kids, one example saying "yes nowwww!" in a chavvy way when they agree with something. Ergh

I worked with someone who couldn’t relate to anything unless it was about her. And it was always worse for her. So if the traffic was bad, it was a total nightmare for her and she nearly turned round and went home etc.
an ex colleague very sadly passed away, leaving two teenage kids with no parent since their dad wasn’t interested. Absolutely awful and nothing we could do life assurance wise etc.
The person I was describing still managed to make this situation all about her. Because she had once been ill with similar symptoms.
She had no children and was unsurprisingly single.

SLT finger pointing at others for disastrous mistakes they've made, they never take responsibility for anything. It's always someone else's fault but in public they present a reasonable face. Greedy manager taking all the opportunities for herself and keeping other women deliberately down.

People sitting on MY chair at the coffee table. I managed to scare off most people from daring to do that but one guy does it just to annoy me.

Starting a new job next week and I'll have to start all over again in establishing my place at the coffee table.

Reheating cabbage/fish/chicken/spicy food in the company microwave and then sitting in the open plan office and eating it at 10.30 in the morning 🤢, and giggling about it, despite being told fifty odd times that it’s not acceptable for everyone else! 3 hours and 42 minutes precisely and you all know what I will be smelling!

I got the same ick over colleagues vaping at their desks. My former line manager just pretended he didn’t notice it which made me lose respect for him, he simply didn’t have the nerve to address it.

People who are never out of a new line manager's office trying to be spokesperson for the whole place and trying to get said manager round to their way of thinking.

People who are never out of a new line manager's office trying to be spokesperson for the whole place and trying to get said manager round to their way of thinking.

This made me laugh, like a scene from The Office.

Not expressing gratitude after Iliterally had no choice but to do their work for them because they are too busy dating another equally lazy coworker.
Not responding to messages.
Glorifying admin line they're gods. (I work in a learning centre)

Well being and safe spaces that goes right out the window when restructuring comes around commonly known as redundancies are in the post.

@wfhwfh this may be for you! I see it in people’s Teams status

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I think what makes it an ick for me is how unbothered she seems, it’s like it’s totally normal for her to ghost her own team. That kind of disregard just puts me off.

I would say that to her in more or less those terms. I'd refuse to have any more meetings with her until she can prove she isn't going to waste my time.

The way no one is brave enough to speak up to the person in charge so his cockamamey ideas that we all have to carry out go on regardless, unchallenged

Holding things like "Wellbeing days". My boss scheduling a meeting over the lunchtime yoga session I'd booked onto.

Oh god yes, this is all so painfully accurate! 😬

I think we had the same boss.

When did twats start saying around instead of about? It seems ubiquitous among twats. "There's no information around..." do they HEAR themselves?

People having loud and lengthy personal conversations in the office on the phone so everyone knows they had sex / are arranging a mortgage/ are a Manchester United wanker, then suddenly it's time for their meeting / presentation, they haven't done a second of prep for it, and they barge over to you demanding your materials / input/ précis just as you are heading into the fucking meeting or presentation in question.