Would you hit someone else’s child?

[Wtfneighbour]

or their parent? Keeping this hypothetical..

if your child was being bullied and the school were not doing anything about it, the parents couldn’t care less, and a child was physically hurting your child. At what point would you intervene be it physically verbally or otherwise?

On the same note, would you hit a teacher if you had evidence they were bullying or harming your child?

has this ever been socially acceptable in your eyes? Past or present? I’ll explain why I’m asking once I’ve read your thoughts.

Yes , if a random kid hit or kicked one of my dogs I would .

No, never

Tbh this is a silly question. Even people who actually physically discipline / smack / beat their own kids are unlikely to hit another person’s children.

Times have changed a LOT since then and honestly I’d definitely recommend against it. To whoever: Do NOT hit a teacher, a child or their parents as that’s an easy ticket to jail for assault and possibly even battery.

Honestly, your family sounds like people who don’t take bullshit! Gently tell your grandparent that times have changed since then and it’s inappropriate to fight it other people when your supposed to be the one with responsibility.. it sets a bad example for the children too…

God No, and the grandparent sounds ‘lovely’.

Who in their right mind goes looking to fight the parent of a bullying child?! . What a lovely example to set.
I hate bullies, but can’t imagine anyone I know deciding to fight to try and solve it.

Bizarre.

No i wouldn't but my ND 8yo hit a child when she was 5yo in primary 1. And the family and friends all waited on me after school and I knew they were gonna hit me. They didn't probably because I had my baby with me and also I can stand up for myself.

However im nearly 41 and remember being cheeky to a neighbour and she gave me a slap. I went running to my mum and she said I deserved it.

What a cunty thing to do. How do you feel that your grandparents were abusive?

What a thug.

It’s actually hard to comprehend. They see it as defending who they love most but as an adult it actually sickens me. Harms animals too.

Teminfs me of the old joke boasting about saving 200 children's lives ( by killing the cook)

You dont actually think anyone's going to come on and say they hit people do you?

Ok. I grew up in the 70s/80s in a very working class community in London. For most families, the teacher was respected. If your child got told off by a teacher, the usual response from the parent would be “Well, what were you up to?”. It was assumed that the teacher was right.

I was bullied at junior school by a boy in my class. My mum felt that school wasn’t taking it seriously so took the matter into her own hands. She found out where the boy lived, marched me up there, and told his dad. No big drama, no adults scrapping. Just firmly told. His dad’s response was to apologise and that he would put a stop to it. The bullying did indeed stop.

So @WtfneighbourI do not recognise the situations your grandparent describes. I don’t recall parents scrapping, physical confrontations with teachers/ staff members. Grumbling and moaning about school did definitely happen and it always will. But widespread physical confrontations between adults over school matters - not on my council estate.

No, but i have two boys who have happily said if the other gets bullied they would deal with it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
my brother did the same to my bully in school, walked straight over & pushed them to the ground and kicked them a few times - soon stopped.

Why wouldn’t they? It’s an anonymous forum.

PS somebody already has

That’s a great story. Glad it stopped for you!

Come on now. You’re jumping the shark a bit there.

No, I have never known of this happening.

No, I’ve never laid hands on another human to hit them ever. Nor would I. Adult or child.

I don’t even know what that means to be honest..

My DMum is mixed race and went to primary school in the 60s in a small town. The TEACHER used to call her racist names, make comments about her appearance and encourage other pupils to do so as well.

I think my DNan threatened her and didn't get in trouble for it. It stopped.

It was a different time - I cannot imagine any teacher doing this but my DMum has been deeply affected by her experiences as a child and I believe her. If that were my child I would certainly have tried to do something. The fact that my DNan didn't face any backlash probably means others were aware it was indeed happening and the teacher didn't complain.

She is not "rough" and I've never seen her raise a hand or even her voice in nearly 40 years.

Sounds absolutely warranted! good for your nan

Of course I would intervene. I would have a meeting with the head teacher, escalate to the chair of governors and involve ofsted and the police and lado if I had to. I would consider taking my child out of the school if I thought it was in their best interests.

OK maybe this I approve of!

Would be quite an extreme circumstance to be equivalent to this nowadays though.

Back when?

When I was first teaching in the 1980s, a parent hit a teacher in the playground (not badly, one slap to knock her glasses off). The school called the police and the parent was arrested.

It's never been acceptable for a parent to hit a teacher OR beat someone else's child. That suggestion is ridiculous.

I’ve known a few families like your grandparents back in the day. There were definitely certain families you would never mess with.