To go back to the office full time

[Toofficeornot]

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I have been offered an interview for a new job.

Currently I am bored in my role. I work full time from home but actually do about 4 hours work a day. Pick kids up and can do school meetings, drs appointments. Kids have additional needs and nanny and childminder not an option.

New job is double my salary, 75k to 150k full time office based. Commute of 1.5 hours each way.

Grandma can help out but not all the time. DH works full time office based too. We need some extra money, things are tight.

Ybnbu - yes you should go for it
Ybu - no dont give uo flexibility and time with the kids

Please help me decide.

Figure out what kind of arrangement WILL work for you, and carry on the process in the meantime. If they do offer you the job, that's when you can negotiate based on what works for you.

I’m sure she has thought of that if she is considering taking the job, why would she even apply for the job in the first place if she hadn’t !?!🤷‍♀️

If you are the main earner it makes sense to go for it if you can. Can your DH cut his hours/request flexible working to pick up more childcare? It’s not all down to you.

If you get the job can I have yours please? 75k working from home for 4 hours a day, yes please 😃

They said it might be 2 days in office, but now have come back and said its 4 to 5.

Update.. I have pulled out of the running. I can't see it working. DH said it will be a nightmare. I said if they are willing to change the in office needs then to contact me.
I can not see a situation where this will work. Mainly due to PP reminding me about holiday care. My kids won't do clubs. I have noone else to do it.

If your children's needs are so severe that they can't use mainstream childcare I would not be leaving a job that allows you to care for them whilst earning £75k. Depending on a Grandparent to care for disabled children isn't a safe bet. If things go wrong you may not find a salary anywhere near what you have now in a role that enables you to care for your DC.

Exactly, I have it pretty good atm. Mainly as I can do my job with my eyes closed as its a few levels below my previous jobs. We have had some big bills lately though and the money would have sorted out all our problems.

Yep, I have come to the same conclusion.

It's rubbish being a SEND parent sometimes. I'm sorry you aren't able to go for it.

Thank you ❤it does feel like opportunities are missed for the entire family.
During summer holidays I took my son to the park and saw all the kids doing their sports summer camp and loving it. I felt so sad for him not being able to do those things. He did one hour of a tech camp he chose and begged me to go on, and I was called to pick him up because of safeguarding as he was trying to escape the room as it was too overwhelming and noisy.
And now I am sad for me and all of us as we could have done some lovely things with a bit of extra cash.
Never mind, onwards and upwards.

Even without the Sen needs of your children, this would be a challenge. No childcare means you cannot realistically be out of the house for 3 hours commuting plus full time work, unless your dh is easily available for the kids. If childcare isn’t in place and completely robust, with a solid back up plan, you’re just setting yourself up for an awful lot of stress.

Sen kids add in another layer of complexity again. This is why I only work at weekends when I know dh is at home, because one of mine has been in and out of school like a yo-yo over the years. Add in the many meetings, appointments, events… I’m sorry op, I don’t think this is going to work if you have to be in an office. A more challenging role from home might work though, keep looking!

Thank you, yes therewill be other opportunities out there at some point. Will keep plugging away.