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Partners dog hairs pissing me off!!!

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colderdayswarmernights · 29/09/2025 12:21

My partner and I live separately. He has two dogs, while I have no pets. I like animals and have no issues with them, but I absolutely cannot stand animal hair. His home and all his clothes are completely covered in it. I’m serious, it's everywhere. I can't even touch him without getting hair all over my clothes. It's a disaster when I wear black. If he gets into my car, the seats and floor are instantly covered, and the same goes for my sofa and bed when he visits my house!

I've bought lint rollers and other cleaning stuff for his washing machine. The issue is that he doesn't bathe the dogs or hoover often enough because it doesn't bother him. He fails to grasp that having pets means you need to clean more frequently. Hoovering once a week just doesn’t cut it! He keeps asking, "How will you manage when we live together?" I will adjust. If I live with pets, I know there will be some hair! Right now, I don’t have any pets, so why would I want to be covered in hair? We end up having the same argument over and over.

I just think his excuses are ridiculous and it’s laziness more than anything. I have family and friends with dogs, including a Labrador, who don’t have this issue because they clean and hoover regularly! I understand it’s impossible to eliminate every single hair, especially with dogs that shed a lot, but am I being unreasonable to be frustrated that he doesn’t even make an effort? I’ve told him it bothers me, but he just laughs and says I’ll get used to it.

OP posts:
newname642 · 29/09/2025 12:26

If you end up living together, it sounds like it will be you who does all the hoovering and bathing and brushing the dogs because he clearly doesn’t and won’t. Is that really what you want?

Arlanymor · 29/09/2025 12:27

newname642 · 29/09/2025 12:26

If you end up living together, it sounds like it will be you who does all the hoovering and bathing and brushing the dogs because he clearly doesn’t and won’t. Is that really what you want?

As usual, first poster nails it.

SummerFeverVenice · 29/09/2025 12:28

Don’t live together.
Yanbu

Megifer · 29/09/2025 12:32

i wouldn't say its lazy to hoover once a week, it just doesn't bother him and its his house.

Do both of you a favour and dont live together until his hairy dog has passed. you'll end up either doing the cleaning to your standard which will piss you off, or you'll end up giving him an ultimatum which he'll probably give in to and the poor dog ends up bring ditched, which will make you feel shit.

BreadInCaptivity · 29/09/2025 12:53

Well it’s pretty obvious whose going to be keeping on top of grooming the dogs and hovering if you live together…..

Sorry but this is grim.

What you doing your own home is fair enough but leaving dog hairs in peoples cars/homes as you’re covered in it is inconsiderate and lazy.

It also looks bloody awful.

So it won’t just be in your car/home but presumably in bars/cafes/cinemas/work where he’s transferring all his dog detritus etc.

Lovely for those with allergies (inc myself) unfortunate enough to sit where he may have done.

Zempy · 29/09/2025 13:16

You don’t seem compatible.

Autumn1990 · 29/09/2025 13:18

I wouldn’t live together

XTheFatAndTheFuriousX · 29/09/2025 13:21

Leave The Hairy Bastard

FaceBothered · 29/09/2025 13:22

Why would you want to live with an adult too lazy to clean his own home?

Drinkinndrive · 29/09/2025 13:26

What kind of dogs does he have?
I used to have a pug and i hoovered every single day, there was still fur absolutely everywhere, she was bathed regularly too, after about 6 months I learnt to live with it 🤣

LondonLady1980 · 29/09/2025 13:36

Do not pursue this OP.

Moving forwards, you won't be able to cope with living with dogs and all it will lead to is arguments and the ultimate breakdown of the relationship anyway.

Save yourself the stress of wasting years of your life and go and find someone you are much more compatible with.

autienotnaughty · 29/09/2025 13:38

We have a lab, Hoover once a week (sweep every few days) we are not covered in hair and we don’t have hair in the car etc. this would put me off tbh. Plus who do you think will end up hoovering and grooming the dogs??

TotallyUnapologeticOmnivore · 29/09/2025 13:41

Why does he assume you are going to live together? Do you actually want to live with someone whose home is full of dog hair? Or with someone who expects you to 'just get used to' his slovenly way of life?

Hotflushesandchilblains · 29/09/2025 13:57

I was fully prepared to think you were unreasonable, because there is always going to be hair where there are pets and no one with pets will have a pristine house. I certainly dont. But I also dont leave scads of pet hair wherever I go, because I clean my house, my pets and my clothes. My sister has a very different approach and I have to clean my car after I have given her a lift because its awful. He needs to step up.

Maddy70 · 29/09/2025 14:06

I Hoover every day , the hairs float in the air. Drives me mad and they're my dogs I just don't wear black ... I have lint rollers everywhere

ShodAndShadySenators · 29/09/2025 16:52

I’ve told him it bothers me, but he just laughs and says I’ll get used to it.

How much more clearly do you need him to express that he doesn't give a toss about your feelings? He's not going to change anything for your sake. It might seem like a trivial thing but these are the things that grate on us and cause unresolveable resentment down the line.

I have around four rubber brushes in our house because I don't want cat hair stuck everywhere. She's a lovely cat but hairs on everything screams neglect and slovenliness. I wouldn't leave my clothes covered in hair any more than I would leave spilled food slittered down my front!

I wouldn't be moving in together, that's for sure, because you'll be the one picking up the extra housework associated with the dogs.

toomuchfaff · 29/09/2025 17:52

I'm a pet owner, don't move in with this man.

How will you manage when we live together?

As mentioned above, it'll be your problem to sort, your hangups to deal with. He sounds like he doesn't give a shit about making sure youre not impacted.

MNJudge · 29/09/2025 17:58

You don't sound compatible...

MotherMary14 · 29/09/2025 18:14

You are completely incompatible, because if you think it’s bad now, just wait until you are living together and the dogs’ hair ends up in your bed, on your plate, under your nails… Dogs shed, you don’t like dogs, your relationship is doomed, sadly.

ginasevern · 29/09/2025 18:16

You aren't compatible. End of really.

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