Development

[OLLY38]

Hi,
My Lo was born 7 weeks early. She is 12 months now corrected age. I think she may be autistic as I see some traits but my husband dosent see what I see and thinks I need to chat to someone. I just want to do what is best for her and I know the earlier the better.

Lo will turn over a toy car and spin its wheels for a mintue and then go off and explore something else. Times she will push the toy car like it should be played with. She responds to her name sometimes, she doesn't be excited or happy when I pick her up from creche. You have to mess or play with her to get her laughing and simling. She waves, points and claps on her terms. She points to dog and we think she says dog when doing it. She is taking a few steps. She eats and sleeps fine and turns to noise. Thanks for reading my thread.🙂

She sounds fine, honestly.

i think you are looking for issues- this seems entirely ‘normal’ behaviour. Why would any of these routine developments be autism?

I have three autistic children and don’t see anything in your post that reminds me of them at that age. However, it’s always different in different people.

I would just keep a note of your concerns but otherwise leave it because it’ll become apparent over time if there is any neurodivergence there. I would also have a chat with someone about your own anxiety levels because that might be most helpful for you.

Thanks LIZS for your response to my thread.🙂

Thank-you @Om83 for your response. Honestly I am not looking for issues. It is just with my first child he would get excited and be happy everytime I picked him up from creche. With my second child there is none of that. I see from looking online it states that children who don't simle and get excited or social engagement could be autistic.

Thanks @FuzzyWolf for your response. Yes I'm getting help already for my anxiety. I am keeping track of things I notice with my Lo. It is just the not being excited or happy to see me or my husband when we pick them up from creche is like a red flag with social engagement.

My now 8YO (totally NT btw) went through a phase of hiding from me whenever I went to pick her up from daycare. Don’t remember exactly how old she was, I think about 18 months. She sometimes used to launch herself into the dressing up box and think she was hidden even though her bum was sticking out. It was really pretty funny really! And nice to know she liked daycare. Everything else you describe is totally normal too. If your DH thinks you should talk to someone then I’d listen to him. Lots of mums have post natal anxiety and it’s better to seek treatment than let the worry stop you from enjoying what should be a happy time.

If you are concerned then speak to your GP or HV. I would like to say that I was born 11 weeks premature (weighing in at 2lb 8oz) and my parents were told that I may take longer to hit my milestones but by the time I started school I'd be fine. I didn't walk until I was 2 years old, but talking earlier than that and didn't grow any hair until I was nearly a year old (my Mum thought I'd never grow any!). My point is, your daughter seems to be displaying normal behaviour, even though she was a little premature. Speak to healthcare professionals if you need a little reassurance.

Thanks @Bitzee for your response. I just worry about her as I taught she should get excited to see me like my 1st born.