To think that, sometimes, you heal your wounds through other people, not just alone?

[MyFairFawn]

There’s a lot of emphasis on healing alone these days - doing “the work”, being self-sufficient, not depending on anyone else. But I honestly believe some wounds only soften or fully heal when someone treats you in a way that contradicts how you were hurt.
Whether it’s kindness, consistency, care or even just being seen, sometime the presence of the right person can help you unlearn what someone else made you believe about yourself.

AIBU to think healing isn’t always a solo act, and sometimes, the right people are part of the medicine?

YANBU. Since meeting my partner, I have become the best version of myself that I've ever been (except for putting on loads of weight which I'm now trying to lose. That isn't his fault though!)

We're both autistic and I've been treated like shit in both of my previous long-term relationships. My current partner is so good with my son (who's also autistic!), he loves me regardless of my mood or how I look, and he treats me with respect and kindness at all times. Without him, I'd still be in the burnout I was in when we first met.

We've had our issues but we've overcome them and I think I'm the happiest I've ever been.

Have you come across Internal Family Systems therapy, Richard Schwatz. Google it, lots of info.
Can be done one to one but also in IFS circles, group therapy in a safe group where you work with others to address your issues. It's about our core and other selves who arise from life experiences, trauma and so on. It's very healing.
https://ifs-institute.com/

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I disagree.

I think you need to heal yourself before you are able to develop healthy relationships with other people.

Otherwise you can become over -reliant on them helping you, which I think can doom the relationship when they get fed up of it being all about you.

I think it’s hardly ever alone. I think you’re misunderstanding what people are saying about healing. No one can do it for you. You do have to do the work. But that work almost always takes place through connection, whether that is with a child, a partner, a friend, a support group, an online community. We are social beings. Everything happens in the context of our social connections and our communities.