To have told DP to grow up in front of his mate?

[Lamberts10]

I’ve got a slightly sulky DP today.

His mate has a new girlfriend who we are yet to meet. He was round here yesterday briefly as he was picking DP up to go to football.

I was chatting to him about how it’s going and DP asked him to show me a photo of her - but said ‘make sure it’s not the one of you hanging out the back of her’ which they both chuckled at.

I told him to grow up - he told me to lighten up as it was an obvious joke.

AIBU to not see the funny side?

Good on you for telling him to grow up. I wouldn’t take long in leaving him.

Is this really the kind of man you think you want to spend your life with? Surely you are better than that?

You don't have to find it funny, but that was a strong reaction. He's then allowed to not like your comment. What did you want him to do, say thank you for parenting him?

I'm immature and probably would have laughed at that, but saying that, I do understand if that's not your type of humour

Well now you know how he talks about you and other women.
I wouldn't care if he as is sulking or not after that comment because I would be too busy thinking about whether I wanted to waste any more time on an immature schoolboy. I wonder if the new gf knows that her new bf and his friends view her as a joke sex toy.

Not at all…maybe take it on the chin. Make silly (at best) comments, pay the consequences surely.

It was a crude joke, but a joke nonetheless and completely harmless one. Adults are allowed to make jokes about adult things. Of course he was going to tell you it was an obvious joke, because it was.

How would you expect him to respond? Were you expecting him to meekly nod and take himself off the naughty step? If my partner reprimanded me in front of my friends like that over a jokey comment, I’d be embarrassed about him acting like a miserable, controlling twat.

It's not a joke.

It's a crude comment that reduces the new gf to a sex object.

Why are women expected to laugh at men's comments that demean them?

It's always the same: crude and offensive talk is labelled as " banter" so that men can get away with language and talk that is actually totally offensive and misogynistic.

Does it come as a surprise to you that your boyfriend has this kind of sense or humour? Do you not know him very well?

did the joke have a sexual connotation or was it meant as in ‘he’s up her arse’ as in obsessed or glued to her?
Gross either way but context would make me think slightly different