My husband has been sorting out his parents ashes out of London with family members. His brother and cousin came down for a few days. I was out of my house for 60 hours due to contract work/travelling so a bit whacked. I have always said to my husband that it's important to have some time with them. However by the time I got back home they were still out into the late evening only sharing time and two meals with me in five days. BIL is separated from wife and cousin has been married and divorced twice. The cousin always decides where he wants to go in London but I was off on BIL's birthday and they didn't even ask if I wanted to tag along (even if it was to meet them later when my husband was working). Went to my mum's instead. The cousin had visited before and said something rude in front of my BIL at me noting that i was upset. He later admitted in the guest room downstairs that he had winded me up. He is unemployed and pays for nothing including the bills we pay for the guest room (he was driven down in BIL's car). I don't want to be joined at the hip to my husband and he says that he won't be visiting or returning back to Scotland as they drive him nuts but I am upset by being sidelined when I am around in the evening.