To feel so down?

[Workingfromhomesucks]

i have been divorced a year now, I’m 35 and still not ready for anything, I am really worried that I am losing my looks and I will never find anybody. Am I just having a depressive week? Maybe getting my hair done might cheer up.

When you say you will never find anybody, do you mean a romantic partner?

If so, I would really focus on that. Think about why you want that. What would they bring to your life? What do you want? What don’t you want? Be brutally honest!

Then you will be in a position to get out there and find a partner who will meet your needs. Rope your mates in. Go on lots of dates. See it as an adventure.

Good luck.

Thank you, I suppose I just feel that I am not as attractive as I used to be. Maybe I am just insecure at the minute and may need to work on that first

My ex met somebody else pretty much straight away. I am happy on my own, I really am, I just feel rushed for that reason I suppose

Definitely work on your self esteem before seeking out a potential partner. You need robust boundaries and high standards.

But is it true that women lose their looks at 35?

op ive seen women in their 50s looking like their 30!
its just about taking care of yourself, drinking plenty of water, cutting down caffiene etc, good food. I bet you are attractive! Why not get your hair cut like you said, itll make you feel so much better.

Why are you fixated on this? You know aging happens to everyone - even men? Is this really the kind of relationship you want?

I’m not sure what this means really. Everyone gets older and looks older.

Your self esteem should be based on who you are as a person, rather than how many wrinkles you have. Are you proud of yourself? Do you make fair and reasonable decisions and choices in your life that minimise harm to others? Are you a trustworthy and reliable friend? A responsible and respected work colleague? Do you like yourself?

You seem very fixated on superficial appearances.

I suppose i am just worried about when I am ready to date a man won’t be interested because apparently women 35 and above aren’t attractive to men

Honestly who told you that crap?

a guy on a dating app specifically put in his profile that he didn’t want a woman 35 plus. (He was 42)

Oh stop it for goodness sake 🙄

Has every man you've ever wanted to date been instantly attracted to you and begging to be your boyfriend?

If the answer is no, then what's the difference as you get older?

Some men will find you attractive and some won't.

Which is the same as it's always been 🤷‍♂️

So your letting one person out of 7 billion people tell you women over 35 aren’t attractive? Behave op that’s ridiculous.

Girl, I'm 36 and had amazing sex with a 26 year old 3 nights ago.

Whatever you're looking for, you will find again.

Put a shot into your confidence - whatever works for you (therapy appointment, workout, haircut, playlist, night out with friends, a trip).

Trust me when I say 30s can be a woman's prime! Own it!

Love this! Are you divorced too? I just think it’s a mixture of things, constantly comparing myself to exes new partner, it’s draining.

Just be glad that a man with that attitude is essentially "weeding himself out".

You don’t want a man who is so shallow and stupid do you?

i was somewhat older than you before I found the man of my dreams and my age didn’t put him off because he’s got brains and depth of character

be patient

I would stop focussing on meeting someone. It’s not the only thing in life. I’m not saying at all that women over 35 aren’t attractive but it’s not the be all and end all.

You can have a wonderful life being single, and then if you happen to meet someone that’s an excellent bonus.

Best thing to do is make sure you life a full life with plenty of opportunities to meet interesting / life minded people, and then if you meet someone you life romantically that’s a bonus!

Nice of him to advertise that he is a dickhead straight of the bat!

What a pile of shite. God, posts like this wind me up.

Definitely not. I look hotter now at 37 than I ever did in my 20s. Much to my glee when I bump into people.