To go away, again .

[Lisisa12]

AIBU asking my husband of 15 years not to go away to Vietnam for 8 days. We have 2 children with ADHD and autism, every time
he goes away they cry, meltdown and take it out on me that he’s not around. He travels abroad 3-4 times a year sometimes on business sometimes for fun, I should mention he loves his business, it keeps him from home a lot. Last year he went to Vietnam for 8 days, saying it was a once in a life time opportunity. Now he wants to go again, again once in a lifetime opportunity blah blah blah. I’ve asked him to stay and he’s getting pissy at me. In the last 12 years I’ve been away once for 2 days as he can’t handle being with the kids. He’s already been away twice this year. I’ve never in our marriage told him what to do, I think I’ve been pretty laid back in him not being around for me or the kids. He works hard and sure he deserves it, but it’s not the right time for me or the kids. We’ve had an awful year and I just don’t think it’s a priority atm. Opinions?

Hmm can you afford for him to go? Is it for work or pleasure as I'm not sure from your post. It sounds though that the issues at home aren't going to be resolved any time soon so is there ever going to be a right time for him to go?

It’s through his business but it’s for pleasure, it will have no impact on the business if he doesn’t go. It’s purely for himself that he’s going. It will be paid for by the business. Things will hopefully get better at home with some consistency in the next couple of years, so it’s not off the table completely, I’m just asking for it not to be now.

No thats not fair at all OP.

You've had two days holiday away from the children in 12 years and he gets to go away 3 or 4 times a year? He is taking you for a fool OP.

No he shouldn't be walzing off on yet another holiday in Vietnam. He should be staying at home looking after his children while you take a well earned holiday yourself.