To expect partner to help out more with baby

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Baby is 9 months old. Was EBF until starting weaning at 6 months, still wakes 1-2 times per night. (Will no longer take a bottle) So I do all the night wakes, get up with her every morning, do breakfast and get her dressed for the day. I do all the nappy/clothing changes & feeding throughout the day, I then do bath & bedtime routine for her every single night. Im still on maternity leave, partner works mon-fri. I also do almost all of the housework (partner will occasionally wash up, cook a meal or vacuum). AIBU to think my partner should do more and that it's not a big ask for us to take it in turns at the weekend, I.e. if I do saturday, he takes Sunday so I can actually have a sleep in and some time to relax? Whilst I appreciate he works all week, I'm hardly sitting around with my feet up all day and think I should be entitled to at least one day a week where everything isn't my responsibility!

Your partner should step up but you are still on leave and have time to do more than your partner.

He sounds like a lazy bastard. He's working a regular job while you do 24/7. Yes, he absolutely should be parenting his child. You sound like a single parent.

So even on a weekend, you are still doing all that? I wouldn’t be happy about doing bath, bedtime AND cooking dinner while my DH sits around doing fuck all.

One of the weekend days he should get up with DC so that you can lie in. He should also take on either the bedtime routine or the evening meal each night. You shouldn’t be doing it all.

Yes still doing all of it. He will sometimes go for a walk with DC to give me an hour or so but this is after I've fed her & got her ready for the day etc. And then it's usually me that gets her ready to actually go out, so coat on & into the pram.

Of course he should be doing more and it's not 'helping out' it's being a parent! Why are you doing all bath and bedtimes? Why are you getting baby ready for him to take out for a walk? You need to be more assertive, hand baby over to him and let him get on with it. Tell him he's getting up with baby at the weekend at least one day so you can have a lie in.

If he refusing to do it, or just letting you take the lead?

There is natural imbalance when you're mat leave, particularly with the first child. You know what needs to be done, how to do it, where things are...

So just stop doing everything, show him where things are instead, maybe help him make a list of what he'll need. Then give him space and let him get on with it. Let him make mistakes too.