My friend’s husband is a tradesman. He’s fantastic at what he does and he’s currently doing a long project on my house.
She sent me a text the other day when he was here, asking me if I’d ever heard him on the phone to anyone while he was here. This was after a few texts where he was here a couple of hours later than usual a few times where he just had to finish bits due to rain being forecast the next day. She would text me “x said he’s still at yours - is he there?”
I said I don’t hear him. Which is true as don’t pay that much attention to be honest. I’ve usually got headphones in, or I try to be out with the dogs as much as possible as it’s really noisy and dusty and we are contained in a small part of the house.
She said please could I keep listening out and tell her immediately if I hear him on his phone.
I said look, is there anything you want to talk about? Because I would be really uncomfortable doing that.
She got upset with me. We spoke and smoothed things out. FWIW, he’s really good friends with my husband. They both rarely go out and when they do, it’s with each other to the cinema, or to the pub once every few months. They are hardly gods gift with women falling over them. She and I (or me and her, I’ve had a couple of drinks 🤣) go out far more than they do.
I’ve known them both very well for around 5 years now, you know when you get the cheating bastard vibe from someone? nope, not from him, at all. He’s lovely. I know you can’t know what’s gone on in a relationship, but honestly, I don’t get that vibe from him at all.
I just hate that I’m expected to keep tabs on him while he’s working in my home. But on the other hand, I feel like I’m being disloyal to her in some way.
I feel in such an awkward position over it.