To think not everyone deserves closure?

[StillOchreFox]

Some people hurt you and move on like nothing happened. Maybe the healthiest thing is to stop expecting decency from the people who showed you they had none.

Is there an AIBU here or are you just quoting an “inspirational” Facebook-type meme?

I don’t think anyone ‘deserves’ closure. It’s a nonsense term made up in the 80’s and certainly not something anyone else can give you. You decide to move on and then you do. Or you don’t and you don’t.

Holding grudges is unhealthy.
Move on with a happy heart.

It’s both - a question and a thought. The AIBU is about whether it’s unreasonable to stop expecting closure from people who hurt you. Not everyone gets that final conversation or apology and I think a lot of people wrestle with that.

Receiving “closure” over an episode of some sort is a want and a privilege to receive, not an expectation or a right to receive.

It is a transaction between two parties and those parties have differing aims. In my opinion, one should make peace with oneself and treat any form of closure as a bonus.

Do you want closure or an acceptance from the other party of the hurt they’ve caused you? You might never get the latter.
For me, closure is deciding to move on and it’s my choice to make.
It’s rare for a full debrief when a relationship ends, you just have to accept that it’s over and focus on keeping yourself healthy.
I personally choose to say why when I leave, but not everyone else does.
You can’t control the behaviour or actions of anyone else, just your own.