To feel irrationally turned off by DP new haircut?

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DP in my eyes is v handsome but I find his hair cut short totally changes his appeal for me.

When he has his hair cut especially short it always leads to a strong gut feeling of almost repulsion or distance and I've recently realised that I think the hair conveys and taps into different ideas and feelings for me.

Short feels militaristic, male, uninviting, disciplinarian and cold - i find him much much less attractive and dont really want to touch him as much. Slightly longer i think feels a bit wild and tousled, open minded and sensual and soft, makes me want to run my hands through his hair and cuddle him.

It sounds ridiculous but it's just how I feel!

Anyone else have such a strong reaction to their partners haircuts (or clothes etc) or know why this could be??

Your poor DP.

Hair isn't open-minded. You said short hair makes him seem male - is he not male?

I understand having a preference for longer hair or shorter hair but I find a person more attractive based on their personality. Your hair doesn't change your personality.

Christ I really feel sorry for your DP

For context, he's not a big fan of my fashion sense and comments on it and i have adjusted for him... i am also very nice to and adoring of him...

"short hair feels male".....well he is male! 🤣🤣

Well I totally agree, op. I hate my DP hair really short and traditional 'short back and sides" style: he looks characterless! I Much prefer when it's grown out a bit, Bradley cooper/Gerrard butler style 😍 he knows this and is happy to oblige if it means I'm drooling more 😆

Why?

They do say - if you don't fancy him once he's had a haircut, then it's not love but a crush.

Just shows how different we are : I much prefer men with short hair cuts.
But. It is only a preference. I try not to judge anybody by their hair style or choice of clothes.
In fact I really hate the way our society puts such emphasis on appearance and fashion.

It sounds like a trap!

Say what now?

I don’t blame you. I’m the same with my partner and his beard , when he’s got one he’s like my Viking and i adore it, when he’s clean shaven he’s got a baby face and it’s a bit of a turn off. Luckily he loves his beard so I’m all good.

Same here. My dh looks much better slobbing in his pjs/tracksuit bottoms with messy hair and stubble than for example when at a wedding where he shaves and gets a haircut! I always tell him this too!

I feel the same. I even hide clothes that I think look awful on him (he’s forgetful so doesn’t seem to notice !)

Dramatic, much?

When I was married my ex was clean shaven. Since divorcing he’s grown a beard which looks truly dreadful on him. Think unruly out of control/never trimmed, query bits of food in there, possibly small creatures. The rest of his personal care is fine it’s just this god awful beard. But it’s very helpful to ensure I’d never fancy him again.
If we were still in a relationship I’d say something and encourage better beard hygiene but I’d have to accept his chosen style is his decision. But we’re divorced so it’s not my business and I say nothing. Just quietly judge and get the ick.

When my DH has very short hair he has the look of a hard as nails convict just out of an eastern bloc prison. When his hair is longer it is much softer for his features. So I can understand what the OP is saying.

But I can't say I fancy him any less when he has shorter hair though, my fancying him is based on so much more than just his looks.

I don't like DHs hair when it's short, I much prefer it long, but it's not my hair so I don't comment. As long as he feels good, I'm happy for him.
I do find I'm more likely to jump him when he has longer hair, but I'm still attracted to him either way

He speaks very kindly of you to his mistress, OP.

I can understand if you just didn’t like a particular haircut. I wouldn’t be too impressed if my husband got a perm but your feelings are completely over the top and I feel sorry for him.