Have I overreacted?

[Kit87x]

Looking for some advice. I’ve been seeing a guy regularly at work, my boss to be more specific, for the last 9 months. Obviously no one knows as it would be inappropriate. I found out a few days ago that he had gone to lunch with another woman at work, only to a sandwich shop which is obviously fine, but then she mentioned how he had bought her lunch and told her not to say anything to anyone. I’ve just found this really weird if I’m honest, more so the fact that he’s said not to say anything to anyone. I’ve asked him about it over text this morning which I kind of wish I’d waited now until I could ask him face to face, his reply was that he didn’t want anyone knowing because people like to gossip and that it’s none of my business and his time is done with us. Does anyone think I was unreasonable or would anyone else feel the same way?

He sounds like a creep. You’re better off without him. Are you job hunting? Might be wise.

I think he's seeing other ladies not just you.

Player. Hone your CV time.

It sounds like he tries it on with a few of you and uses his power as a boss to rely on you staying quiet.

So he dumped you? If so your well rid

You said it yourself, he goes in for inappropriate relationships.
Turns out, he goes in for multiple inappropriate relationships.

Thank you so much everyone, honestly felt like I was just being unreasonable and coming across as jealous.

If he kept your relationship a secret from everyone and he is wanting to keep his relationship with this woman secret then I wonder how many other secret relationships he has on the go?

You are well out of it OP. Keep your relationship with him purely professional.

Well you certainly dumped your colleague in it.

Well she should have kept it a secret like he wanted 🫣🤣

Eh?

She trusted you as her colleague not to go back to him and say that she'd told you.

Ok, she didn't know you're shagging him but this is why secret work relationships are inappropriate.

Either way, you're probably not the only one he's getting his leg over with, so best to end it I'd say.

She didn’t keep it a secret, because she knew about the two of you.

You do realise your employment has come to an end at that place?
Start job hunting.