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To ask WHY you work

235 replies

BeatriceAlbert · 26/09/2025 21:42

Got in a discussion about retirement/early retirement and why people actually go to work in the first place. I know it seems obvious to answer ‘for money’ but this was off the back of the parody about a fisherman.

A businessman on holiday spots a fisherman lounging by his small boat after catching a few fish for the day.

Businessman:
“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?”

Fisherman:
“Why would I?”

Businessman:
“Well, with more fish, you could buy a bigger boat!”

Fisherman:
“And then?”

Businessman:
“With a bigger boat, you could hire a crew, catch even more fish, and eventually own a whole fleet!”

Fisherman:
“And then?”

Businessman:
“Then you could build a company, go public, and become a millionaire!”

Fisherman:
“And then?”

Businessman:
“Then you could retire, relax by the sea, and spend your days fishing!”

Fisherman:
“…Which is what I was already doing before you interrupted.”

OP posts:
BauhausOfEliott · 27/09/2025 08:43

moresoup · 26/09/2025 23:22

Maybe we are just lucky to find the right job. There are plenty of jobs I would find mind numbingly dull

No, it really isn’t about finding the right job. I don’t find my job dull, I’m very good at it. I work with nice people and for an organisation that does good things. I’m in exactly the right kind of job. What I don’t understand is when people can’t think of anything other than work that would occupy them and give them a sense of fulfilment. I’m not criticising them at all - I have friends who feel that way, and my sister’s like that too. I just can’t imagine ever feeling that way. If I had enough money to have a reasonably pleasant lifestyle without working, I would have absolutely no problem filling my time with all sorts of things.

Aweekoffwork · 27/09/2025 08:47

Not far off retirement age but can’t imagine not working. My work gives me a sense of:

achievement
fulfilment
structure
routine
doing something worthwhile and rewarding
socialisation

and of course I earn money !!

Montereyjaaack · 27/09/2025 08:50

I can only work 10 hours a week (15 if I include travel) in a job that’s way “below” what I’m capable of - not just financially but in terms of capabilities, but that’s because of my severely disabled DC.
Why I do it is a) a tiny bit of independence financially b) feeling like I’m not just a benefits loser living (or trying to) off carer’s allowance, c) I work outdoors with children- it’s fun and I get gentle exercise and fresh air d) I’ve met some lovely staff (and children) which will stay with me for life as a joy that helped lift me out of the tough time I was having before I could work (death of mum, PTSD from an incident). Just be being who they are I mean. E) I’d rather do something rather than nothing - I’m 50 and I dread not working again. It’s fine to garden, read, walk the dog, paint (all things I love) .. but 7 years of that is quite enough

PurpleAxe · 27/09/2025 08:52

Because I enjoy living in a house and eating food.

Sixpence39 · 27/09/2025 08:56

I have only ever worked so I can pay for a roof over my head. If I won the lottery I'd never work another day! I'd spend my time helping my loved ones (and travelling of course)

Isanyonereallyanonymous · 27/09/2025 08:59

Definitely just money.
Weirdly my part time job just working in a pub is more beneficial to my well being than my full time office job working for a charity.
I benefit from the in person interaction and feeling like part of a team. So maybe just doing that.
Life is busy and full enough that I could happily not work and still have plenty to do without missing work, if someone could just cover my bills for me that would be great 😂

Shineonyoucrazy · 27/09/2025 09:01

Money. To support my family. To contribute. I have chronic anxiety and full time work helps me to manage that - gives me distraction, routine, helps me keep things in proportion.

5dollah · 27/09/2025 09:03

To keep a roof over our heads and food in our bellies

DialSquare · 27/09/2025 09:05

Purely money. I’ve been doing it for 40 years and it’s always been about the money. I’d be out like a shot if I could.

Wannabedisneyprincess · 27/09/2025 09:07

Money

I could become a SAHM as DH salary would afford that but we would have to change our lifestyle and when I asked my DD6 if she would prefer mummy didn’t work like some of the mums in her class she said ‘No Mummy, I like going on holiday’ so looks like I’m staying in work as I also like a holiday

Aparecium · 27/09/2025 09:13

We could afford for me not to work, but my mental health would be destroyed and our future pensions would be smaller. So, whether or not I actually want to work, it is better all round for me to work. I do like my work, but I have Long Covid. I am permanently tired. All my efforts go into working. My life has shrunk. I would like to reduce my hours so that I can have the energy to do more than just work.

childofthe607080s · 27/09/2025 09:14

To have a few fish to feed the family

CharSiu · 27/09/2025 09:19

I started off nursing in the NHS it didn’t pay enough and wasn’t interesting enough.

I career swapped and earned a lot more with better hours, met a lot of interesting people and got to drink free wine.

ThatRareLimeFinch · 27/09/2025 09:22

Worked since 15 until 2 years ago.
i packed up work 2 years ago in a combination of my own chronic illness and a SEND child with SEMH needs.

i only ever worked for the money. my last job was killing me both physically and mentally.

and honestly id be quite happy if i never worked again.

tedibear · 27/09/2025 09:24

Money. I like my job but I’d rather choose what to do with my day. I mainly wfh around school hours and it’s quite lonely and boring.
I’d be a lot fitter for sure as I’d actually be able to have the time to go to the gym.

Greenwitchart · 27/09/2025 09:25

Money when it comes to the work I do as an employee.

However I also work freelance and I enjoy that very much.

I hate office politics and all the managerial nonsense that comes with working in most UK office environments and much prefer being a freelancer with more freedom and the ability to walk away easily if I am not enjoying a contract/project.

Tumbleweed101 · 27/09/2025 09:28

Only for money as I have children to support. I’d much rather be spending time at home on my hobbies and if I could guarantee making money from these I would do them instead of my job. I’m a creative person who likes to potter and home make.

Can’t wait for retirement! Just annoying the age keeps rising.

Iremembercandlecove · 27/09/2025 09:30

For money (duh)

To feel like I am doing something useful
with my time and that my life has some purpose.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 27/09/2025 09:33

In this order
money
interest
being in my team
learning
excitement (it can be quite high adrenaline at times)
pension

if I had loads of money I’d still work, but probably two or three days rather than four.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 27/09/2025 09:34

Because it's impossible to not work.

TheFallenMadonna · 27/09/2025 09:35

Moral purpose. I know that sounds wanky, but there you go.
I mean also money, of course. I'm lucky indeed to combine the two.

moresoup · 27/09/2025 09:40

BauhausOfEliott · 27/09/2025 08:43

No, it really isn’t about finding the right job. I don’t find my job dull, I’m very good at it. I work with nice people and for an organisation that does good things. I’m in exactly the right kind of job. What I don’t understand is when people can’t think of anything other than work that would occupy them and give them a sense of fulfilment. I’m not criticising them at all - I have friends who feel that way, and my sister’s like that too. I just can’t imagine ever feeling that way. If I had enough money to have a reasonably pleasant lifestyle without working, I would have absolutely no problem filling my time with all sorts of things.

Oh I have heaps of things outside work that also give me fulfillment, and enjoyment. It isn't that. I could fill my days quite happily without working.

But I genuinely love my job and I know that I am very skilled at it and therefore can make a real difference by doing it. And that feels like a real privilege.

Friendlygingercat · 27/09/2025 09:46

When I was employed I did it purely for the money. Now I am self employed I do it for a sense of fulfilment and structure to my day. And the money still comes in handy.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 27/09/2025 09:49

I enjoy my work (specialist nurse), it gives me purpose, I like my team and I feel valued.

I have enough money to keep a roof over my head and do the things I want to to do 🤷‍♀️

TheSwarm · 27/09/2025 10:09

For the money.

I couldn't give a shit about getting a sense of purpose or achievement or any of that from work. I don't hate my job but I can get all of that doing things I want to do, and not because I have to.

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