I would have replied sooner?

[Ribenafan98]

Me and my cousin (we are close) have just lost our Grandma. Obviously everyone's very sad. My cousin text me on Wednesday asking how I was doing and I said "Ive been better to be honest, just feels like there's a lot going on and I'm feeling overwhelmed."
She took over 2 days to reply.
If it was me and I got that from a close relative, I'd have replied that day or at minimum day after.
AIBU? understand everyone's busy but its a really difficult time for us all. She is single, works part time and has no kids (im not saying people without kids can't be busy, just for context, shes not so rushed off her feet running around after loads of kids).

She's also just lost her gran. She's probably feeling the same as you and a bit mentally drained

Tbh you don't know how she's feeling, she could be emotionally overwhelmed for any reason and then on top of that her Gran has just died, there's no set time for her to respond to you, as everyone keeps saying, you don't know what issues people have,

It understandable that you may not be feeling very resilient right now. But please don’t keep score against your cousin because she’s also grieving. Sorry for your loss.

Did you ask her how she was feeling? Bearing in mind she's experiencing the same grief that you are.

Yes I did

Did you ask how she was doing?

And she didn't reply to that either?

Alternatively, she’s single and has no kids so has less immediate family support herself and is struggling too?

She might just not be the right person to support you in your grief right now if she’s equally sad and overwhelmed.

She is single, works part time and has no kids (im not saying people without kids can't be busy, just for context, shes not so rushed off her feet running around after loads of kids).

It sounds like that's exactly what you're saying or why mention kids at all?

Gently, I think you're being really unfair.

Thanks everyone. Suspected I was being oversensitive due to grief which I think is definitely the case.

I’d have read your message and probably thought, yeah, I get it. But I’m grieving too and can’t quite instantly reply and get into addressing your needs today. Give her a minute.