I’m in my 20s and had a close friend since school. We went to school together and have known each other for 15+ years.
Last year I dealt with a horrendous situation at work where my manager tried it on with me and I complained about him. As a result, I had to leave my job, consider an employment tribunal and basically start over from scratch with a new employer.
This friend of mine, completely distanced herself from me even though she knew I was struggling and going through a difficult time. I never over share and I never asked her to do anything, but she just literally would ignore my messages if I ever mentioned stress. She would never pick up the phone to see if I was okay or offer any sort of emotional support. She would however message me about her partner being rude to her, or her being treated badly at work, and expect me to be a listening ear for her. But if I shared anything, it was like she got the ick! She was very cold, distant and basically made me realise what a shit friend she is.
I stopped bothering with her, focused on myself, got a new job and got back on my feet with a better salary and buying a house. All of a sudden, she’s popped back up wanting a catch up, trying to congratulate me and say how proud she is. I just don’t know how to respond as I just feel she wasn’t there for me and I have zero interest in having her in my life now that I’m doing okay.