AIBU to love another woman

[KhakiOrca]

I have been in an abusive relationship with a man. A woman has come in to my life who is in the same situation.
We have so much in common. We have both been in a situation with abusive men,
We don't live near each other, but we love each other.
We are both straight! but we actually love each other. I want to help her and she want to help me
so confused

I am actually straight, but this woman is my life, she understands me and I understand her

We have both been in abusive relationships with men, sexually and violently

I send my best wishes. I hope things work out the way you want.

If you’re definitely straight and feel no sexual attraction, it’s a platonic love so really it’s a very deep friendship. You just need to both know / feel that this is what it is. Otherwise one of you may want more.

Have you met? How did you meet? How long have you been out of your abusive relationship? And where do you see this going?

YANBU to love whoever you love but this seems more like a rebound borne of trauma.

We have met on a platform we have helped each other. But we wanna meet and has anyone else been trough a disaster with a man and want to be with a woman

I dont wanna be in a relationship. But I feel love for this person

You do understand that a relationship between two women is no guarantee that it too will not be a disaster?

yes. I get it. but I am actually finding something i have never felt

We have both been with abusive men

How long have you known her?

Lots of women have.

I don't understand the question.

Are you looking to have a sexual relationship or platonic friendship? It’s not unusual for any person to change teams so to speak.

But you’ve not actually met each other in real life yet… right.

If you hadn’t both been with abusive men would you feel the same?

it sounds like you’re clinging to each other for comfort and love but for the wrong reasons, and I’m sorry if that’s not what you want to hear.

You don’t even know her. Seems like you’re just looking for someone to save you from your situation but she’s also in her own situation, so can’t even help herself. Why don’t you guys just swap resources and help each other with a plan to get safely out, then you can revisit these so called feelings.

As you haven’t met her you have no idea who she really is. It sounds like a nice distraction from what you need to be doing which is extricating yourself from an abusive relationship. The love, real or not, this person, real or not, won’t help you leave. You need to do that.

Well I hope you've Facetimed and you're not being cat fished by a bloke.

Not being catfished. I hope. I have heard her voice

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Friendship

I don't get what the song and dance is @KhakiOrca .
So you've met a woman you get on with and respect. Is that really so unusual?
Don't make a fool of yourself by thinking it's more. The new friend might not stick around long.