Engaged but regretful.

[Taylorsmithh]

My partner of 4 years proposed to me on friday. It was a huge suprise. I was so shocked and happy that I could barely talk from crying!
However yesterday he made a comment about our little girl and it got me thinking... he wants her to be nothing like me. Comments imclude:
I went to a rough school, when discussing schools and our childhood, partner looks at baby girl.and says "you'll go to a good school"
I said I have never been backpacking, partner said "our little girl willl"
I pronounce sandwich as sangwhich, always have (i dont know why!), when I said that word, he looked at our baby and said "dont worry, you'll talk properly"
When disusing how our baby girl will sound (accent wise, I'm glaswegian hes bolton), he said "she will not have your accent, if she does, it'll affect her career prospects"
When chatting about uni, he knows I didn't stay in halls, he said i missed out and that our little girl will definitely stay in halls.
When chatting about childhood holidays, he said his family would go to bed early and wake up crack of dawn and go on big hikes together then have dinner in their motorhome. I said my family would alternate years of caravan and holidays abroad and when we stayed at caravans, we'd go out and explore during the day, have dinner usually out and then go to the kids entertainment.. he said "I cant imagine doing that, if im away with family, I'd want to spend time with them, we won't be doing that with our little girl".
He also said he doesn't want our little girl panicking about everything like me.

I pulled him up today after one of the comments above and he said they're not digs. He said its me who us making them a our me, not him. I got upset and asked him to see it from my point of view, he has no, I'm being dramatic.

Am I being dramatic?? I started thinking that he only ever says to our little girl, mummy is pretty isn't she, you have never eyes like mummy, its always looks. Anyway, upset and thinking if saying yes was wrong.

Am I being dramatic ir is this a red flag? How do I approach this

I think you’ve posted about this elsewhere.

He wants better for your daughter than what you had - isn’t that a positive thing? Surely you want her to have a better childhood than your own, more options in the future? That’s what we all strive for as parents, to provide as well or better than our own did. I think you feel sensitive about it but acknowledge he’s correct.

But I'm well educated (high school, college, uni) and in a senior role at work. Everything seems like a kick. Even my family hokidays

Why did they delete your thread on Gransnet OP?

I feel like this might be a you thing? Are you finding things to pick at because you’re not happy?

People thought i was a troll with this issue. I am definitely not a troll. If I were, I'd come up with sonething entertaining, at least! People kept saying go to mumsnet. Here i am!

Are you in love with him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?

What was he like before you had your little girl?

Does it really matter now? Whatever the rights and wrongs of it, he's the father of your child, marriage isn't going to change that. Should have thought of all this first!

It does sounds like you're taking his comments personally. It's normal for each generation to want more and better for the next. He sounds a bit dickish thinking he can dictate - but I'm guessing this child isn't very old/you haven't had much time parenting yet. He'll learn!

Well, your fiancé sounds rubbish. Why would you want to marry someone who treats you like this?