When friends make your birthday party about them?

[Thecuddlymeoow]

Idk if this falls on this but i said yes for my friend to bring her best friend guy because not gonna lie hes pretty funny guy even tough it only said «invites only». Her friend dosen’t live in the same state so she said it be a suprise for her partner that her guy bestfriend will be joining my birtdhay party that her partner don’t know. (they are besties now). My tought was like um ok sure? But im not doing anything extra because this is my birtdhay celebration not about her and her guy friend even if hes a lovley guy. Should i ask her about what surprise? Since i really don’t know what she ment with that.

You make no sense 😆

What a load of rambling nonsense.

No one knows what you’re asking.

Please stop this ageist crap. OP might be younger than you but she doesn’t deserve contempt.

This doesn’t make any sense!!! 😭

So your friend’s friend is visiting from out of state and you’ve said he can attend your birthday party e side you think he’s funny? But you now think your friend expects you to add on some element of surprise for the visiting friend or her boyfriend who will be surprised by the visiting friends’ presence at your party? Or that she thinks your party is about her.

Respectfully, OP, this is a total non-problem.

I actually don't understand this whatsoever? I really don't mean any offence, but my brain is hurting trying ti decipher this.

Sorry

*to not ti 🤦🏼‍♀️

Agreed . Theres been a lot recently.

Sorry @Thecuddlymeoow there are a lot of people here being mean. I understand you probably wrote this straight onto a thread with all your pent up emotion, so it doesn’t flow very well, and is a little confusing. That said, a few people have given you advice, so ignore all the rest. Don’t be put off using Mumsnet for advice.

Your post is difficult to understand

I think you’re saying that you invited your friend and her partner to your birthday celebration and she has asked you if she can invite her (and now her partner’s) other friend, who lives elsewhere. You said yes. Your friend now wants to make the out of state friend’s visit a surprise for her partner. You think she might have other surprises in mind for her DP and that she’s U since the main event shoupd be your birthday.

If so then YANBU, she’s being rude and self absorbed.

This!! Most people don’t expect to be the sole focus of everyone’s attention on their birthday, it’s an excuse to get the gang together and all have a good time normally. However, it sounds like OP is American, and I get the impression they’re more into the whole “my special day” thing, and everyone “celebrating” a particular person… so maybe it’s a major faux pas in America… idk… but since you came to a British forum for advice OP, it’s fine, it’s no big deal, they’ll just be there to have fun like everybody else.