Neighbours kid’s birthday?

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So it’s my next door neighbours DC birthday today, there were all balloons and birthday bunting outside the house and on her left side neighbours front door (they are close).

I was talking to another neighbour down the road who mentioned she was popping over with a card and gift etc and was surprised and shocked when I said I didn’t have a card or gift for the child.

I used to talk to her and we were quite friendly but she created a WhatsApp group with all the neighbours and didn’t invite me so since then I just say hello and that’s it.

She is also nosy hence another reasons why I keep my distance.

I don’t see why I should go round with a card and gift as I don’t even know her.

This neighbour thinks it causes bad feeling as she is my neighbour and our kids are the same age (toddlers) and it would best to make an effort.

AIBU to not go round with a gift and card?

I don’t know why on earth anyone would expect you to give a card and a present to the child of someone you aren’t even friendly with! You wouldn’t even have known about the birthday if it wasn’t for the decorations outside. YANBU and your other neighbour is being weird. It’s also none of her business anyway.

You weren’t invited so no gift, end of

Your neighbour is batshit.

Absolutely not.
You weren't invited.
Wise move keeping your distance.

Absolutely fine not to give a card or gift.

Yep.

Hi
I think people are just dropping of presents and cards etc but neighbour has said she has obviously put the banner and balloons outside for people to go round and be friendly as DC has just turned 1.

But I won’t be bothering with a card/gift as we aren’t friendly.

Nobody puts a banner up for that reason, surely!? Honestly I think your neighbour is mad.

Wouldn't even occur to me to knock and give a card or gift

If there's no actual party, then the banner and balloons scream 'bring presents!'. Total main character syndrome. Although, she may have invited the others using the group chat you're not in. Or has been banging on about it for weeks, so they've all got the hint...

I don't think you are 'obliged' to send a card or gift. You don't seem.to have a decent connection to them. Banner or no banner.

I send gifts to a neighbours daughter because I like her. So.e other neighbours send my DC's gifts for birthday/Christmas because they like them and watched them grow up. .

No, you don't need to take anything round.

I would say Happy Birthday to the child when I saw them though. If your kids are the same age there is every chance you're going to bump into her at the school gates/swimming lessons/brownies etc etc so it's probably best to remain on pleasant terms.

Yes she does have “main character syndrome” (had to google it lol) the first time I met her she told me things that you wouldn’t usually tell a complete stranger.

The child has just turned 1 and is a year younger then my youngest so there is a possibility of maybe meeting them at a class etc.

I know she feels that I should make more of an effort with her (told a neighbour this) but I just can’t warm to her.

Or screams why shouldn't we celebrate our child's birthday how the fuck we want to!
Maybe they don't have many friends or family - does that mean they can't celebrate?
Maybe they don't want random neighbours turning up with random shit for their child but because some batshit neighbour has decided that every birthday on the street needs every neighbour to provide a gift they're now in the loop of having to buy reciprocal gifts for every other birthday!

Only ever done new baby gifts for neighbours