Dd 15 alton towers

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My mum thinks it's not OK for my dd to go round alton towers by herself. Dd has adhd and is probably a bit more naive than a typical 15 year old. She would have her phone and location on. Wouldn't probably even speak to another person unless she needed help.

Aibu to let her?

Does she want to go alone rather than with a friend?

As long as she knows where to go in an emergency and a backup in case she loses her phone or it gets damaged on a ride, I’d let her. I appreciate that a 15 year old with ADHD will be emotionally young but she should be comparatively safe in the park.

Oh gosh yes she does we are doing one day in park staying over night then water park before driving on she would rather do the theme park than water park

I’d leave her to enjoy herself. Hope she has a good time.

The only thing I would consider is you being at the water park so maybe less contactable. If you have a plan for this and she knows not to panic if you don't answer the phone immediately etc she will be fine. Theme park staff are very used to supporting teenagers.

Absolutely fine.

She'll be absolutely fine.

As pp said the only problem is you not being contactable in a water park. I would have another person who is on standby as someone to contact in an emergency. And that persons number and yours on a bit of paper in a pocket in case of losing her phone.

Does your mum have a habit of interfering in your parenting? I ask because if this is unusual for her to do this, I would put more stock in what she’s saying than if she’s always trying to tell you what to do.

Ultimately, this has nothing to go with her - it’s up to you as parents and your daughter as the individual who will be alone in there. If she wants to do that after you’ve all been in together for the first day and she knows what to expect, has an idea of the layout, etc then I don’t see the issue. I’d probably advise her to avoid areas where she might be alone for safety reasons (eg the gardens) and just check how she would feel if she were on a ride were it to breakdown, especially if she was on her own or she’d had to leave her bag with her phone back at the starting point. The main one I’m thinking of is the cable cars - that can be a bit scary when it comes to a complete stop, imagine if it’s a quiet day and no-one else is in the car with you and you don’t know what’s happening/how long it will take, it could be terrifying for a teenager. So as long as you’ve discussed it and she knows what to do in those situations, I’d say go for it.

Spoke to dd about her plan and she's says she's pretty much going to ride the smiler the whole time so she'll be pretty much queuing for the whole time. (Looking into fast pass) She would probably panic if it broke down though. I'll see what she thinks of that.

Mum offers her advice but knows what I say goes and is the end of it

Also I'd have my phone with me in water park. I'm going to be mostly sat at a table with wee baby

Very kindly explain to your mother that yhe decision is yours. End of.