To not like people..

[PinkSatinSky]

Just that really. The older I’ve got the more I realise there are very few people that I like.

I had friends come and go in my 20s, and I just can’t be bothered with the drama now. Making an effort and opening up to people for them to fall out with you as you didn’t bring a good enough desert to a dinner party.

You put time and effort into friendships and then when life gets hard they disappear.

I’ve got one good friend who’s stuck with me through thick and thin so I’m quite happy with her as my only friend and just focusing on my children, partner and parents. I don’t need anyone to come to toddler groups with me - I’m happy doing things on my own with the children. I just don’t crave company of a bigger friendship group.

is it just me?

I’ve been like that since childhood, according to my mother I’m antisocial.

I just don’t like people and their nonsense. I prefer my own company

Couldn't have said it better myself.

I'm 27. Haven't had any proper friends since leaving sixth form when I was 18. I have my partner, my son and my family and those are the only people I need to be happy. I wouldn't even say that I don't like people - I just can't be arsed with the majority of them.

I am coming round to your way of thinking. I was a member of a friendly (at first) book group with lots of social meetings.
After a couple of months the back stabbing, selfishness and pettiness surfaced. It was vile.

I have one friend who never makes an effort to interact unless I make contact first .. Unless she wants something.

Another one (retired) doesn't drive but dictates where go on trips out and the timings.

I have just had enough, it just seems such hard work. My sister even said I waste too much time on bad friends. Other friends I have are fun to be with.

Why are you ‘opening up to people’?

Don’t do that! No-one wants it. Friends are for sharing interests, hobbies and activities and for having fun. I keep my problems to myself and so do my friends and we thoroughly enjoy each other’s company.

Otherwise a) you are expecting too much of people - friends aren’t counsellors and b) you’re over-sharing which is embarrassing for others and can drive them away. Make people WANT to be with you, not dread it.

I have a close circle and outside of it want to spend time alone or with my children only. I still love engaging with people though, making them laugh, bouncing off them. I've always been sociable. I have to be sociable to my children's friends so they have good relationships also.

I get this completely.

I loved my last job as I was seeing different people everyday - lots of quick chats and sociable interactions but without any pressure to go any deeper. It filled my sociability cup without being exhausting.

I'd class myself as a confident introvert.

I was a person who loved being around people, but I find people different now. A lot of the traits I liked and valued in people seem to be disappearing and are being replaced by back stabbing, snideyness, gossiping, laughing AT others. I find I don’t enjoy the company of many people these days. I think social media has rewired peoples brains and being nasty has become the societal norm and it’s not nice to be around.

I find I get more enjoyment from surfacy conversations with acquaintances and strangers these days.