OH and His Phone

[VipersKiss]

My OH and I live are in our 50's, live 110 miles apart and only see each other at weekends, we intend to marry in the future. He is a comp engineer and obv weekdays needs to have his phone at hand, the thing that I don't understand is why he has his phone unmutedwhen we're together so it can beep fckin bleep at times which I feel shoud be Our time. We both have family and close friends and it's of course fine to check phones once a day or so to make sure there are no emergencies needing action, the crux of this waffling is I want our phones muted as we get precious little time together, am I being a bitch or not?

Have you said this to your other half? 🤔

I wouldn’t be prepared to have my phone completely muted and only check it once a day no, I have children, close friends & family who could urgently need to contact me and that would come before someone I date at the weekend every time.

I am not one of these people glued to their phones 24/7 - the opposite. But if someone told me I had to have my phone on silent whenever I was with them I would consider that to be a controlling behaviour. If he's constantly messaging or chatting, that's one thing, but choosing not to have silent mode on is just that, a choice, does it really interfere in you having quality time with him? Honestly?

If you don't like the "bleeping" ask him to put it on "vibrate".

So youre saying that all weekend you need his undivided attention?

YABVU

Checking your phone once per day is ridiculous. The emergency would be well and truly over if it happened just after your once a day check!

If it beeps constantly, ask for silent mode. If not, he obviously wants to be alerted to a message so he can check if it’s an emergency or not and what’s wrong with that? It’s not beeping at 4am or every 2 minutes so just let him have a life!