Family violence / row

[Monkey5x]

I don’t really know why I’m coming here. But I need a rant.
my uncle, attacked my ex partner on our daughters 1st birthday. (Off his face on cocaine) seen him outside my house and swung a garden tool at him and caused serious damage to his arm. The police was aware, but my family made me retract my statement because they said he will basically k”ll me. Crazy I know!
so anyway, I retract bare in mind his partner is evil. She’s reported to universal credit, she’s reported garden works ive had done in my garden, she’s made false malicious reports to the police about domestics (thankfully she made herself look an idiot on that end)
all been left, I’m heavily pregnant too and I’ve just got on with things really they are literally nothing to do with me and has a nasty evil bully I’ve never ever been close with him!
this Sunday ive had a women message
me about a house swap, offering me 5k. Well turns out this women is friends with my uncles girlfriend. I said no I’m not interested in her house, I’m not longer looking to move and she’s gone straight in for the attack being spiteful bringing private things up that my grandmother has told my uncle and it’s now being spread around. So at this point ive broke, and cracked.
yeara ago he was arrested for (accusations about touching his daughter) so I blurted it out and said how dare you sit there on a Sunday verbally attacking me for no reason mad told her some of their disgusting business. I feel bad, but I can’t stay quiet forever they have caused me so much stress recently!

my family have now said I should apologise for what I said aboir him to the women because he’s embarrassed.. I’m absolutely livid, he attacked my children’s dad the list is endless and they want me to apologise? I even did what they asked and retracted a statement and they still carried on. 😔

Well, how has it worked out for you so far? (Doing what they say). Tell them where they can shove it. Do you want to be one more woman who spends her life enabling the shitty (and criminal) behaviour of men? And maybe go back to the police and tell the truth this time? They get people retracting stuff because they were threatened all the time. Just tell them that's what happened.

your uncle sounds perfect role model for your children violent cocaine taking paedophile just the sort of man you want your kids associating with

Indeed. It's a fake post, I'm surprised the uncle isn't the father of her baby.

I grew up in an addicted and at times abusive household.

The unsaid rule of that is to NEVER speak publicly about what’s going on.

it’s only now I’m in my 40s that I realise that rule only benefits the abusers.

You’re made to feel like you’re letting everyone down by standing up for yourself, telling the truth, wanting something different.

fuck them!

Excuse me, he’s not around my children🤣 don’t have NOTHING to do with him can’t stand the bloke , infact of someone asked him my kids names he wouldn’t even be able to tell you lol

It all sounds very dysfunctional. Just block the lot of them, get your head down and plan a future without them. Stay strong, maintain your boundaries, keep your mouth shut and step outside all this toxicity.

Break out of it all, carve a decent intelligent path, set a good example to your children and be proud of being different from your low life family.

Your best bet is to move to a different area if you genuinely want to avoid all this crazy drama and seriously bring your children up in a stable environment

No I’m absolutely not moving an away, I live in a lovely area. My kids love it here too. Not upping and leaving because of them x

so why was he at your kids birthday party then as your post made out

He wasn’t at my kids birthday party, he lives two roads up. Him and his partner drove past, he got out her car and attacked my ex partner. Please don’t question me like I’m lying, I had family that was at my daughters birthday standing near the front of my house too

I clearly said in the post, he seen him outside and then attacked.

yeah not buying it sorry

How is this a fake post? Please enlighten me😂

Not buying what sorry? 🤣 why would I lie 😂

If you knew the history of the man you’d buy it darling, he’s vile. He wouldn’t even be able to name my kids if I asked him right now. Buy what you want, I have zero reasons to lie

wow!! nice family!!

How the other half live eh?

Well you aren't putting your children first by refusing to move away from such vile people are you! OK so it's a lovely area but you're far too close physically to such a nest of vipers, so not a lovely area at all.

Be a good parent and get your children far away from them, despite their objections.

Moving away is not an option, and I won’t be guilt tripped into thinking it is. My mum, my sister, my siblings were all SO close, I have friends here. I have work when I need it, my children have a life here. I will not isolate myself somewhere else. That doesn’t mean I’m not putting my children first, it’s weird you’d even say that

I’ve got a beautiful home too and just spent a lot of money on it. I can’t believe you can even say I’m not putting my children first. 😂

Your children are in close contact with a violent drug using uncle and your family got you to drop charges against him. You are enmeshed in a toxic family dynamic and think "a lovely home" makes it all dandy.

It doesn't. Your children will suffer from being in such close proximity to such dreadful people.

It's sad you can't see the wood for the trees.

My children are in no contact with this man, get it in to your skull. I will not leave my close family ie my mum because of that nasty bully! Sometimes you feed people by running! Why should I leave everything ive built? Thanks for your opinion but your advice is not what I’ll take thanks. Unreal you think it’s so easy to just uproot from my hometown when I have everything here with 5 children. If that’s what you’d do then fair enough but I’m not leaving so cheers

My children will suffer if I move away, with no one around just me in survival mode! Please to go and look up mental health and support network.

How are your children not in contact with him if he was at your daughter’s 1st birthday party?

Btw you need to steer clear of him and report him to the police. Don’t be afraid of him or retaliation.