Am I over reacting?

[Mumof3SEN]

I’m married to DH and have three children 5, 3 & 2.
I really don’t know if I’m over reacting and have no one to ask.
I’m on a fairly large dose of Sertraline and am still BF DD. As a result I’m just uninterested / too tired for any relations with DH. I’ve tried to explain and asked him to look at why but he just gets grumpy, sulks and says we’re not a normal husband & wife.
He watches a large amount of porn - several videos a day which I accept but I’ve recently found numerous videos and photos of one person who is the daughter of someone we used to live with saved to his phone, I understand watching but why save it? and only of this one person.
I’ve confronted him and said oh wow I’ve watched porn big deal but this isn’t about that.
this is all after I’ve previously warned him after him calling sex lines repeatedly.
AIBU to be so upset?

You accept him watching porn several times a day? Clearly has a porn addiction - thats not normal and most likely another reason why not your attracted to the looser. Honestly would want sex with a man who uses porn that much & uses sex phone lines? Blergh. 🤢

No you're not overreacting, that's not normal.

Well I wouldn't accept porn in my relationship at all.

And your H is obviously a porn addict.

He will need more and more extreme material in order to satisfy his addiction. And moving on to more and perverted stuff, on to live cam shows and even on to prostitution is all a well worn path of porn addiction.

He doesn't care about you OP. Women are just there for to satisfy his sexual needs.
Porn users lose the ability to have normal real life relationships because.

The thought of him sitting in your home watching wall to wall porn while you gave 3 young children there is just disgusting.

vile behaviour, porn is one thing but a friends daughter is revolting. Do you even want to be with him?

Sees women as sex objects for his gratification. And a friends daughter too?? It's a no from me. I'm out of this relationship, I'd be happier single

I'm on antidepressants as well @Mumof3SEN and have 0 libido so no sexlife for 10 years. Children 12 and 15. Somehow my DH has managed taking care of himself without watching porn (he thinks it's degrading towards women) or perving over photos of someone's daughter (!). The porn would be bad enough but what would make me end the marriage would be this. How utterly vile and disgusting he is. Do you have daughters? I wouldn't feel safe to leave them around him. Sorry if you think that's a leap but how old is the girl? And has he known her since she was a child? It's very disturbing and I would get my ducks in a row to exit.

I find a lot of responses saying they abhore porn and so do their partner completely unrelatable and unhelpful,

I think lots of men use porn in loving relationships.

I think several times a day is a lot, but more than that I think the daughter of someone you know is quite gross and would give me the ick.

do you love/ like him? Do you think this is ok? I would not want to shag someone with videos of a friends daughter on his phone. It would be the beginning of the end for me.

I think you are underreacting...