DH says I shouldn't be breastfeeding in front of FIL

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So earlier today I was sat in the living room feeding DS (hes 4 months, still pretty much feeds whenever he wants) and FIL popped round. He came in, said hi, had a cup of tea and honestly didnt seem remotely bothered. Later DH had a go at me saying it was “awkward” and I should have gone upstairs or at least covered up. Im absolutely fuming, its my house too and im not hiding away every time the baby needs a feed! FIL is a grown man who has seen worse in his life im sure. Its not like I was flashing everything about, just quietly feeding my baby. I cant believe DH is acting like im the one in the wrong here.

Am I wrong??

You are the person who is breastfeeding, so you get to decide when, where, how and in what circumstances you do it. Nobody else's input is required.

Ask him : Is there anything about his father you don’t know but should know ?
I guess not but I would want him to name the exact reason why you should hide out of FIL’s sight in your own home when breastfeeding your baby.

Your DH is being ridiculous. I didn't ever leave the room to do it and never felt I should have to. And before anyone says it's anything to do with a different generation FIL was 71-74 when I was bfing just a few years ago. He was totally used to it from MIL doing so about 1976-1980

Your husband views your breast as sexual and their for his pleasure. He needs to grow the fuck up and wind his neck in.

What on earth does he think is the problem with it?! Ridiculous man!

Wow.
i often fed baby in front of df and dfil. Perhaps I felt slightly weird about it but baby needed to be fed and I wasn’t going to sit upstairs in my own. If someone had an issue they would have got a gobful from me

I don't think it's a bit much at all. It's spot on.

Either op's DH is being misogynistic and territorial over op's boobs, or he thinks his df is going to think inappropriate sexual thoughts about op's boobs.

Either way, it's disgusting.

You are not mad. Next time your mum visits, tell your husband he can't have his tea or cake in front of her.

Yeah exactly, FIL honestly didn’t care, he was more interested in cuddling baby after. It’s 100% DH making this into some big issue. I don’t see why I should be the one to go hide, especially when I wasn’t exactly sat there with everything hanging out. Feels like DH just sees boobs as his property which is really winding me up. If he’s so uncomfortable maybe he should be the one to go upstairs next time.

Tell your DH that him and his DF can eat any meals at your house in a cupboard or something from now on. Your DH should be singing your praises and telling everyone how chuffed he is that his baby gets to have food that your body has specially designed, specifically for their needs and will derive significant benefits from. What an complete prat!!!

I wonder what your DH would have thought of me - I breastfed in cafes, in parks, and even once or twice standing up in really long slow moving queues at the airport! It’s so sad that breastfeeding is so demonised in the U.K. No wonder breastfeeding rates are so low.

Interesting that this has only just come up at 4 months?

When DS1 was a few days old, my DH came out with some similar weird shit about how his dad might be uncomfortable and perhaps I should go upstairs.

I can't remember what I said because I was off my head with sleep deprivation but it was pretty much 'you are being ridiculous, I will feed my baby wherever I like' and it wasn't mentioned again.

DH grew up and was very supportive after that.

Next time mil and fil come over, I’d ask if DH would like to go upstairs because he finds me breast feeding in front of them awkward 😂

My (now ex) DH was occasionally a bit like this about me feeding in very public places - I was really rude to him about his comments until he stopped.

smash one off at the sight of his sons wife’s boobs feeding his grandchild. You sick fuck

Is not a normal thought to have in my opinion.