To think you can marry your friend

[ThisProudRoseBear]

Not that I personally intend to, but I am open to all possibilities, and I don't have a romantic partner yet.

My observation is that while most people choose to marry their romantic partner, nothing in the marriage vows are inherently romantic. "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part" can be applicable to say, best friends. In the case of children I kind of understand but what I think is what makes marriage absolutely romantic? It is about a very deep connection which can be platonic or romantic.

Am interested in what everyone thinks of this.

Have you started the same thread twice? Report it to MN so they can get rid of one.

I remember a thread about a woman who was dying and chose to marry her friend so they would get her house and assets easier, the whole thread was so lovely.

The problem is people rush into marraige or kids before they have had time to work out if they can be friends with someone. That initial passion does not last and whilst yes you do need to have passion for the person you chooses to have kids with, you also need to be able to get on, and be able to get through the tough times too.

The marriage vows you've quoted are Christian ones and sex is referred to in the service (euphemistically). I'd say it's kind of not in the spirit of Christian marriage if you sign up to it with no intention of the sex part. Just my opinion.

If you're not referring to Christian marriage specifically but legal marriage, then I'd say it's about the legal joining of assets and I'd agree that no romance or sex need to be involved

But if you marry your friend and it all goes horribly wrong, then you've not only lost your spouse but your best friend too. I married a man who was my best friend (we also had sex), and when he left me it almost broke me utterly.