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To reject trainee surgeon?

494 replies

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:54

My young child is on the wait list for eye surgery. It’s a complex surgery with risks of blindness or other permanent eye issues if not done correctly. These risks have been explained to us but the benefits outweigh the risks.

My husband took him to the last appointment and the surgeon explained that a student surgeon may undertake all or part of the surgery under his supervision. My husband nodded along as far as I can tell.

Whilst I fully understand that healthcare professionals need to practice, perhaps selfishly, I don’t want my son practiced on. I wouldn’t forgive myself if something happened and I want someone well experienced to do the full surgery.

AIBU to request/insist on this?

OP posts:
sanityisamyth · 24/09/2025 19:31

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

And how does your experienced consultant start off their career?!

RawBloomers · 24/09/2025 19:35

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 15:43

I am not being dim.
The consultant may not have done the operation in a while, they step back and are there to supervise, to teach, to empower.

Highly unusual for a senior surgeon training a junior colleague not to have extensive and up to date experience in the operation.

The whole point of training is to pass on up-to-date expertise because lack of experience and out of date techniques lead to worse outcomes.

ImpPeril · 24/09/2025 19:39

If it helps I had an experience with a 'trainee' surgeon who performed the procedure thoroughly and carefully under the constant supervision of the experienced consultant who was explaining different options and best practice the whole way. The trainees work received praise from everyone who checked on the healing.

RawBloomers · 24/09/2025 19:39

Allergictoironing · 24/09/2025 19:17

Experience and skill are often not the same thing! We all know people who have been driving for years and are still a bit pants, and others who seem to pick everything up in a few weeks. Keeping to the driving analogy, you get drivers who are very experienced and think because they've been doing it so long they can get away with bending or breaking the rules (drive too fast, cut the corners on bends etc).

@RunningThroughMyHead there's a fair chance that the letter is a bog standard stock letter for that clinic with just the patient details & dates etc changed. Your consultant will have a big list, probably even a few other patients on that day, and will decide which of the various operations can be done and to what degree by non-consultant surgeons, but the letter will read the same to all those patients. Yes he probably did say to your DH there would be a more junior (than consultant) surgeon assisting him who may well do some parts of the operation, and I'm sure there will be more routine operations being carried out on the same list that can be done perfectly competently by a resident.

We have pants drivers on the road because our driver training and testing isn’t particularly extensive (compared to training to be a surgeon) and drivers aren’t routinely monitored for the quality of their driving after they’ve passed their test. It is a completely inadequate analogy for surgery where there is a very high correlation between experience at a particular operation and outcomes for patients.

Kirbert2 · 24/09/2025 19:40

sanityisamyth · 24/09/2025 19:31

And how does your experienced consultant start off their career?!

With a patient or their parent fully informed and happy to consent. Not feeling bullied or pushed into it because the medical professionals career progression is put first.

OP's priority is always going to be her child, not someone's career.

DuchessofStaffordshire · 24/09/2025 19:40

I'm sure it'll be absolutely fine. He'll probably read a book on eye surgery the night before 😉

boberto88 · 24/09/2025 19:43

Oneeyedonkey · 24/09/2025 14:05

Maybe because I have just come off 2 bloody night shifts

It isn’t the op’s fault that you have just come off two night shifts. There is no need to be rude to her.

Vitriolinsanity · 24/09/2025 19:45

Having only days ago watched a very young doctor (I’m old, so obviously he was 19 🤣) repair my sons face, I am in utter awe of the skill, professionalism and manner of the doctor. It was a masterclass in concentration, dedication and competence. The mess he started with, where you could see bone through many layers of tangled soft tissue injury, involved many stitches but only 3 visible, convinced a very worried mother who was devastated he’d be scarred for life. Scared DS, was utterly at ease, joking with the doctor from the corner of his mouth and is so relieved with the result.

I understand your worry OP, it’s your child! But regardless of the negative press, our doctors and surgeons are first class. Absolutely check back on the supervision angle; you’ll be reassured. It will be OK!!

cygnusgenie · 24/09/2025 19:55

As you seem to be very anxious, then say no. But in reality what you are asking is that you take the benefit of training doctors, but you want everyone else to accept the necessary processes involved in training very highly skilled personnel

boberto88 · 24/09/2025 20:04

It’s shocking that there appears to be so many highly qualified posters on this thread who cannot help themselves but be rude to the OP. The OP is not medically qualified and is seeking reassurance. The amount of apparent medical professionals who are intentionally being rude to the OP, simply because their ego has been bruised is appalling. The OP hasn’t intentionally tried to insult anyone. She is a lay person with no understanding of how medical training works. Why can’t people just be kind and provide some reassurance to a concerned mother?!
OP, I have had many eye surgeries over the years since I was a child and I have been well looked after. Your child will be looked after well also. They will be in very good hands ❤️

Heyheyitsanotherday · 24/09/2025 20:34

I understand your apprehension but…The person operating will be very senior and not a student. They are all junior under the consultant but sometimes are more up to date. Haven’t formed bad habits. Sometimes consultants can be so confident they are lax and their registrars are the people you’d want to be operating. Your consultant will not let anyone touch your child who they don’t trust to do the best job possible. I hope things go smoothly for you all.

Boglets · 24/09/2025 21:10

The surgeon will likely be an ST6 or 7, that’s a very experienced Registrar. It means they’ve had 2 years general surgery training and 5 years of ophthalmology specialist training under close supervision of Consultants.
I worked in Maxillofacial surgery for a year as an SHO helping in ops - always a Consultant and Reg in and only the very experienced registrars were allowed to take the lead.
They will be close to being a Consultant if the supervising Consultant is going to let them do the bulk of the procedure.
Your child will be in safe hands - honestly. If they had any concerns about the ability of the registrar, they would not allow them to operate on a paeds case with a critical outcome if it goes wrong.
Your child is precious and it’s normal to be worried but they will be in safe hands

MixingMemoryAndDesire · 24/09/2025 21:19

Yes, I agree @allergictoironing - experience and skill are two different things, and the one does not guarantee the other. But in the absence of more detailed information- e.g. success rates for each surgeon doing this particular op - I would be going for an experienced surgeon over an inexperienced one. And would have no qualms about doing so.

Nearly50omg · 25/09/2025 00:17

Lanzarotelady · 24/09/2025 17:37

Students do not administer anaesthetics!
A resident Dr may have, one who is in training and is heavily supervised. They are competent.

The one that caused spinal injuries on me was allowed free rein to just stab multiple times in my spin trying to numb me up and it’s taken years for me to be able to walk again! I can’t feel anything from under my bra strap down at all and the student anaesthetist didn’t give a shit when he found out what he’d done to me. Told me that every doctor by the time they were fully qualified had killed at least 5 people and injured many more but that was ok because now they are qualified it shouldn’t happen again!

Clonakilla · 25/09/2025 03:15

It took me a full ten years post graduation to be fully qualified.

Surgical registrars towards the end of their training will be doing many operations more regularly and sometimes more recently than their consultant.

Occasionally patients do say they don’t want a registrar and at every hospital I’ve worked in this accepted, even on occasions when we’ve been aware that his means a less skilled doctor who would not be our choice is now the patient’s choice.

It can be hard with no background to understand how rigorous and lengthy specialist training actually is and for how long
you are competent before you actually get final sign off

HappyHedgehog247 · 25/09/2025 03:21

Im sorry you're getting a hard time. It's terrifying handing our children over to go into surgery and so I think it's natural to want the very best person for the job and assume it's the consultant. I think it sounds like you need more information to set your mind at rest, it's a shame you weren't there for the pre-brief.

allthegrass · 25/09/2025 04:25

Interesting replies ! If you had come on and asked if you should let a trainee hairdresser do a complex cut and colour you would have got a resounding no.
I think attitudes around its free so suck it up are interesting too. Where does the notion that the nhs is free come from ? It isn’t you are all paying for it every month with your taxes, a working person will pay thousands and thousands towards it in their lifetime. You are also allowed to ask questions. That would be my advice really ask questions how many times have they carried out the operation before ?, how long have they been training for ? etc. Why is it the only profession where you are actively encouraged not to ask questions ? not to make a fuss ? Not to waste time ? Absolutely bonkers it’s his eyes. It’s not just mumsnet it’s the British society on a whole that has this attitude towards the nhs. Make a fuss op if you want to and ask questions if you want to. Wishing your son a fantastic outcome.

99bottlesofkombucha · 25/09/2025 05:40

allthegrass · 25/09/2025 04:25

Interesting replies ! If you had come on and asked if you should let a trainee hairdresser do a complex cut and colour you would have got a resounding no.
I think attitudes around its free so suck it up are interesting too. Where does the notion that the nhs is free come from ? It isn’t you are all paying for it every month with your taxes, a working person will pay thousands and thousands towards it in their lifetime. You are also allowed to ask questions. That would be my advice really ask questions how many times have they carried out the operation before ?, how long have they been training for ? etc. Why is it the only profession where you are actively encouraged not to ask questions ? not to make a fuss ? Not to waste time ? Absolutely bonkers it’s his eyes. It’s not just mumsnet it’s the British society on a whole that has this attitude towards the nhs. Make a fuss op if you want to and ask questions if you want to. Wishing your son a fantastic outcome.

We all know a trainee hairdresser hasn’t had 10 years of intensive study and experience though?

Sheiswaiting · 25/09/2025 05:49

allthegrass · 25/09/2025 04:25

Interesting replies ! If you had come on and asked if you should let a trainee hairdresser do a complex cut and colour you would have got a resounding no.
I think attitudes around its free so suck it up are interesting too. Where does the notion that the nhs is free come from ? It isn’t you are all paying for it every month with your taxes, a working person will pay thousands and thousands towards it in their lifetime. You are also allowed to ask questions. That would be my advice really ask questions how many times have they carried out the operation before ?, how long have they been training for ? etc. Why is it the only profession where you are actively encouraged not to ask questions ? not to make a fuss ? Not to waste time ? Absolutely bonkers it’s his eyes. It’s not just mumsnet it’s the British society on a whole that has this attitude towards the nhs. Make a fuss op if you want to and ask questions if you want to. Wishing your son a fantastic outcome.

Relating a trainee hairdresser to this?

I mean, really? @allthegrass ?

ispecialiseinthis · 25/09/2025 05:54

RunningThroughMyHead · 24/09/2025 13:57

Surgery isn’t the same as being a qualified ophthalmology though! It’s a whole different skills set, hence they’d need full supervision.

Why is it wrong that I want someone well experienced?

I don’t know if you have misunderstood, OP but the consultant surgeon and resident doctor (who will be registrar level) will both be specialists in this field. So you want be having a resident doctor who does mainly thoracic surgery, for example, doing ophthalmic surgery on your child. The resident doctor would have many many hours of ophthalmic surgical experience under their belt, they won’t straight into complex surgery having not done so. Some or all of the operation may be done by the resident doctor, depending on their level of experience, under the supervision of the consultant. Who that resident doctor is, you won’t know because no-one knows yet - it will depend on the rota, leave, staff sickness, patient sickness (called to see an emergency) etc.

Sheiswaiting · 25/09/2025 06:03

In the OP’s shoes, given her husband doesn’t seem at all clear what the surgeons actually said, I would have probably clarified the situation first before committing my entire afternoon to debating it on mumsnet.

Oblomov25 · 25/09/2025 06:09

Sorry op has been given so much grief. It's a completely understandable concern.

Willyoujustbequiet · 25/09/2025 07:06

Oneeyedonkey · 24/09/2025 14:01

You really have no idea how hospitals work do you?
If you want to choose a particular surgeon you go private and pay the associated costs.

That's not our recent experience at all.

For DD surgery we were given a choice of surgeons and hospitals.

Theroadt · 25/09/2025 07:26

I had rare and critical surgery on my eye 5 years ago. It was an op always under GA but as it was during Covid I was sedated not fully unconscious as they weren’t taking overnight cases. I was assigned a “student” not the consultant I had been previously seen by (without notice, but that’s typical of that eye hospital & another story!) - said student was a fully-fledged surgeon. I could hear how well he was supervised by the consultant throughout the op. Optical surgery is micro & projected onto a huge screen and everyone in theatre can see it - in that sense far easier to supervise than nirmal body surgery.

Sheiswaiting · 25/09/2025 07:32

Willyoujustbequiet · 25/09/2025 07:06

That's not our recent experience at all.

For DD surgery we were given a choice of surgeons and hospitals.

The NHS gave you a list of surgeons and indeed hospitals and said “take your pick”? @Willyoujustbequiet