About friend sending me photos?

[cherryexplos]

So friend knows I’m a bit self conscious about my weight. But she constantly goes on about her weight and tells me all the time about buying size small and it’s just too big on her (then don’t buy a small?)

Anyway she’s now starting sending me photos of her jeans not fitting her (too big) and saying how she needs to go shopping. I just feel like go talk to someone else about this.

Aibu?

Hmm not much of a friend, is she?

Stop responding to the photos

But not much of a friend though is she?

Just do a thumbs up reaction on every post or picture she sends. There's no better way to express that you couldn't care less

That is not a friend. She is playing mind games.

Completely ignore those messages. Only respond to other things.
If she asks:
“yep, too big. Buy size 6 or extra small, or try on in shop”
”yeah too small for you” and repeat, repeat, repeat. Copy and paste even.

I’ve had a similar issue with a friend using weight loss jabs (no judgement, it’s working for her) and keeps sending me unsolicited progress photos of her weight loss.

Eventually I replied with a kind but clear message essentially saying that she looked great and I was really happy for her that she was happier with her appearance but for my own wellbeing, I would prefer if she didn’t send me these type of photos directly as them combined with the general constant noise at the moment about weight loss jabs was making weight loss thoughts take up too much of my headspace.

Things still seem ok between us and I feel better for not getting these photos all the time.

Nah OP, that's being a bitch. I agree with the thumbs up suggestion.

Mute her and stop responding at all.
She's not your friend.

How odd!

Either ignore her photos, or reply with something dismissive like: "Blimey, that's the 10th message you've sent where your clothes don't fit. Haven't you figured out your size yet/dont you think you ought to buy some new clothes?"

Tell her she needs some chips.. Then reconsider the friendship..

If she thinks you are close friends, she may feel safe sharing her photos and mini obsession with you. It sounds as though she has body dysmorphia.

if you feel you are close friends, you could tell her that her body dysmorphia unfortunately jars on your nerve about your own body issues, and have a mutually empathic conversation.

Call her out. Tell her 'Are you being serious? You know I'm feeling bad about my weight and you keep moaning about size small being too big. Please stop, it's making me feel worse.'

And then if she still does it, block and delete her.

She thinks she is being tactful letting you know you need to lose weight for your health but has no clue his to tell you!

No she does not, OP has already said she knows that she's self conscious about her weight, what she's trying to do is rub it in that she's very thin

She might genuinely not be connecting the two. She might think you look great, and that her weight issues / feelings about weight are by definition totally separate. She still needs to cop on, though…! Maybe tell her as kindly as possible and reconsider friendship if she keeps doing this?