Single child and dad keeps being poorly?

[TheOpalFox]

How am I meant to work? As well as care for my dad? He’s got a lot of health issues and he keeps ending up in and out of hospital
how can I keep going up the hospital every few weeks for weeks
at a time.
if I don’t work . Carers allowance isn’t as good
as wages? What does everyone do with poorly parents ? Thanks

It’s really difficult. Are there any friends who’ll visit him sometimes.

I take it you're talking about your own Dad OP? Assuming this is the case, then you simply can't expect to do both, it's just too much.

I think you or your Dad, when he's well enough should speak to either his GP or someone at the hospital, and ask them about how you can get help caring for him, as you need to work, and look after your child/children. I can totally understand you wanting to be there for him, but as an older person myself with grown up kids, and grandkids, although it would be nice to have family members help care for me, should the need arise, I really wouldn't expect it, and would speak to my doctor about what other assistance I can get.

You can’t give up working and providing for your child to care for your father. There are services in place that can help him. I know it’s not ideal but you need to put your child (and yourself first), and that includes providing for them.

Go to council. Adult social care will have to find him carers. They're gonna have to shoulder the cost for as long as Carer's Allowance is bloody pennies and family can't afford to become carers for their loved ones.

Do you mean you're his only child OP?

It's a lot of pressure as parents get older.
As PP said, try and find out about care services that you might be able to use.

Does he want you to be with him the whole time he's in hospital? Unfortunately that's just not realistic or reasonable if you have to work.

Oh op, just wanted to send well wishes

Can you spend a full day making a plan for the future - putting together a list of family who might help, social services and other departments

How much worse off would you be on carers allowance and uc? Could you reduce your hours and have a uc top up?

Best of luck xx