It’s all just too much

[Topsy1980]

I’m married, 2 kids ds age 11 and dd 14. Dd has autism and currently not attending school, going through EHC process and fighting my way through systems to get her support. DS just started secondary.

Hubby works full time but I’m main earner. I have 2 jobs & was doing PhD but I’ve paused that whilst I’m caring for my dd as it was too much with work as well.

Im just so fed up with it all. Dont like my jobs but I have to earn to cover bills (we don’t have extravagant life at all). My PhD was the thing I loved, like an escape from everything else, so I begrudge pausing it. And I really feel like I’m failing my dd by not being at home more to educate her. My ideal would be caring for my girl and doing my PhD, but I can’t be the mum I want to be or do the things I love because my days are filled with endless juggling of work, motherhood, and SEN caring responsibilities and fighting the school system. I’m exhausted and fed up with it all.

if he is working full time, can you start living off his salary and re-arrange your lives, so you are home and see your children more. The SEN provisions in this country are not helping children and are going to be scrapped. Home education is the best opportunity parents have so far

Unfortunately his salary barely covers half the bills. The secondary education system is an absolute farce. I’m close to home schooling both my kids my 11yo has only been in secondary for 3 weeks and has totally lose his spark already, just seems like an awful learning environment.