To send DS to nursery tomorrow?

[Pinkstuffs]

I’m 30 weeks pregnant and have a 16 month old DS. I work full time with a bit of shorter day on Fridays (compressed hours). I’m going on mat leave in December so a while ago I booked some random days off mid week to use up some holiday and as I knew I would be knackered!

The first of those days off is tomorrow and I was planning to send DS to nursery but I feel so guilty I’m not spending the day with him. I love him so much but honestly he’s very full on at this age and Ive been poorly for the last few weeks with back to back colds, and was looking forward to a bit of solo shopping and vegging on the sofa. WIBU to send him to nursery? My DH doesn’t think so but he’s going on a holiday without us for a week in a few weeks so it may be to ease his own guilt!

You’re allowed a day off for yourself 😊

Stop being silly. Send him to nursery.
Enjoy a day of peace.
You paid for nursery already right?

Enjoy your day to yourself! You need to recharge!!!

Don’t be daft, send him to nursery. Can’t see why your husband needs to feel guilty for his holiday either but I guess there may be a back story there

Well I think he does feel slightly bad about leaving me with DS when I’ll be almost 34 weeks pg but I haven’t made him feel like that, I think it’s just because he’s human!

Yes it's fine, you're pregnant, you need the rest.

I'm not sure I understand - you've paid for DS to go to nursery already? But you feel you ought to spend the day with him? But that's not a holiday is it, that's in fact the opposite of a holiday.

I can assure you, when my son was in nursery I used a lot of my annual leave to have actual days off, not parenting. And I miss it very much now he's at school and I have to use most of my annual leave to cover holidays! (Although to be fair, six year olds are much, much easier and more fun than 16 month olds.)

I did this on my random days off during pregnancy and mat-leave pre-second baby with a two year old and no regrets! Those days were the only days I ever got anything practical for the new baby done and got any decent rest, they were essential. After 30 weeks my DH also started taking DD on days out every Saturday just the two of them without me so I could nap, have a bath and potter around uninterrupted before chaos reigned. Amazing!

Plus it would have been a waste of money not to send her.

I have already paid for DS to go to nursery and he won’t know any different. Its because I already don’t see him much during the week because of work that I feel bad.

You should do what you want to do. Personally , in that situation, he's be 100% going to nursery so I could rest and crack on with some jobs. However, if you want to spend the day with him - then go for it!

This is the first time I’ve seen a unanimous Mumsnet poll! Enjoy your day to yourself- they’ll be in a limited supply going forward!

I don't understand why this is even in doubt.

I did the exact same thing for a few weeks in a row towards the end of my pregnancy. It was blissful. Pregnancy with a toddler is a whole other level of tiring!

Send him and don't feel guilty. Looking after yourself, being less stressed because you've rested/caught up on housework, makes you a livelier, happier mum, which benefits DS!

Send him and don't feel guilty one bit!
I finished up on mat leave at 35 weeks and still sent my eldest to nursery daily between then and when I gave birth at 39 weeks, your growing a whole human your entitled to a rest op

It’s just an ordinary day, he can go to nursery. It’s not the day before he goes to university or something where you have this one chance to spend time with him before he moves out.