Photoshopped pictures with departed loved ones?

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Quite understand people are different, but this seems odd to me - why would you want a picture that looks real with a deceased relative?

Could someone one please swap the woman for the gentleman in the picture with my children, sadly he passed before he could meet his grandkids and would love a picture of all of them

I find it really weird

In the olden days I guess you would superimpose a cameo of the departed GP in a corner of the picture. I would probably prefer something like that so it's obvious the images are not concurrent, but you can still see them together.

Not something I would do personally. I struggle to even look at pictures of my deceased sons, but if it brings someone that is grieving comfort I can understand. Grief can be absolutely terrible, you get through however you can.

You can't understand why someone would get comfort from seeing a photo of their Mum holding their baby, or their dad standing at their wedding?

Really

I would say you're the odd one in this scenario op. Imagine judging someone for seeking a bit of comfort while grieving.

I’ve always really hated this and think it’s super weird but each to their own I guess.

I wouldn't myself, but I understand why some people might get comfort from it. The Victorians featured actual dead people in their photographs, so it's not a new thing. Do I find it odd? Yes. Does it impact my life in any way? No.

Nope, it's weird. They weren't there so why superimpose them. It's fake.

I find the ones where people make the figures in the photos move very odd.

I do think it’s a bit odd, but then I’m in the very fortunate situation of not yet experiencing a close relative dying. Easy to be judgemental when you’re not struggling to keep your grief at bay, and desperately trying to find something that will make you feel better.

Because its obviously comforting to someone who has suffered a massive loss.

I don't see why that's weird.

It's harming no-one.

Same with the teddies that have the dead persons voice

Thats what I think - I would never say to someone in real life, as they are clearly going through something and its not my job to make it harder - hence posting here so I'm not directly judging anyone

Do I find it odd? Yes. Does it impact my life in any way? No.

Pretty much most posts on here?

It sounds bizarre, but in line with the current trend to deal with unpleasant realities by denying them.

Do it if it brings comfort. That doesn't mean we have to pretend it isn't weird.

Lots of things are weird without harming anyone. That doesn't mean they aren't weird.

That is weird and creepy.

It’s been being done pretty much since the invention of photography. Along with the photos of dead children propped up to look as if they’re alive but sleeping, or sometimes with eyes painted on their closed eyelids to make them look alive. The internet is full of them.

Think of how infrequent photographs were then. Often there would have been no living photo of the dead person.

It's weird but ultimately harmless.

But then I feel the same about roadside shrines.

To me a photograph is a snapshot of a memory and actual moment in time. Superimposing someone that wasn’t there makes the photo not real and not even a memory.

I feel like that’s different as the experience still actually happened. They may have been dead but they were there.

comfort in fake memories is weird

I haven't done it, but all the people I know who have done it have had children die and want a photo with all their children together.

If you really think a bereaved parent is weird for wanting that then I'm even more in despair of humanity than I currently am.

I have done this.

My mother died before I got my degree (I was a mature student) but they were in my heart every single step.

I’ve got a picture of me in my robes with her standing beside me - off to one side and slightly behind. Because I carry her with me in my heart always.

And god but she would have loved to have survived long enough to see it. But cancer had other ideas. She died the May and I graduated in the July.

quite frankly, if anyone does not like it they can get in the sea.

I also have tattoos of the dates of my children’s birth and I include my stillbirth baby in that. Does that bother you too? If not, why not?

Quite honestly it’s fuck all to do with anyone else.

call me weird if you like. I don’t care. If you don’t like it don’t look. It’s one photo in my house. Is it only that photo that bothers you? Why? Why not take down all photos of all dead people?

I can absolutely see how it can bring comfort to the bereaved, but all I can think of is people in the future being puzzled when they try to trace their family history and view these pictures. It will be rather confusing seeing photos of family groups, some of whom died perhaps years before the pictures were taken.

Well each to their own but I find it very mawkish.