To not get consent to post in AIBU?

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A while back, I posted something on AIBU about my DH. It came up again in conversation recently and he said he's really not happy that it's out there forever on the internet and that I shouldn't post things about him. He asked me not to do it again.

I said I couldn't promise that and he said that the least I could do was ask his consent.

I said I might not want to do that as the thing I am posting about might be something I would prefer not to discuss with him.

I am not sure what the issue is. I said I would never give any identifying details but he said what if Mumsnet was hacked and my posts became identifiable.

So AIBU to post things about him without his consent?

(And before anyone points it out, I am aware of the irony here that i am posting this...without his consent!)

Surely one of the of the positives about sites such as MN is it’s anonymity, people often wouldn’t feel comfortable posting the initial thread or a response if they had to put there real name in place. OP discussed it with partner so I suppose there is some consent issue, but again, how would anyone know who either of them are

well that was silly.

Would you be happy if he posted your problems on a forum?

I do have to admit I find it strange when people post on here and then turn around and show the subject of the post the comments etc.

Posting and venting anonymously is one thing. Doing it and making the person aware is another.

Don’t talk to him about it. It’s a private outlet. Diaries could be read, emails or texts could be hacked, it’s extremely unlikely that a list of user names and email addresses will ever be published and his friends and family will specifically look up yours to find out all about you and him.

Don’t talk to him about Mumsnet. Use Mumsnet to get your thoughts in order. Then talk to him about your thoughts.

If we all had to ask permission from the person we were talking about to post, MN would be reduced to 'which robot vacuum shall I buy'

However 'My DH who is headteacher of Wherever Secondary School has a boil in his bum. Shall I pop it?' is an obvious no-no.

Keep it vague people.

I talk about my DP to my friends all the time, it's completely normal in our friendship group. I wouldn't even think to mention it to DP. Same with my MN use, it's literally none of his business.

Stop telling him.

Really?
"My husband plays a sport every saturday morning (I won't say what as it's outing)"

LTB!

Mumsnet is incredibly judgemental. Don't get me started on any of the step-parent or MIL threads!

What about if he tells people in their real life who actually have more insight into their lives and they tell her that not only is she lying about the narrative she presented on here, she is wrong about the whole topic anyway?

Who should she believe. People who know her. Or women online who answer a forum?

You dont need anyone's permission to post on an anonymous forum. He is a twit. Change your username and move on (and carry on posting if you need the support).