Neighbour upset because I gave another neighbour stuff

[poodlloveer]

I live next door to a family with 2 - 3 cats, the woman isn’t very friendly.
She completely ignores DH and only says “hello” if I say it first.

She isn’t really someone I would want to be friendly with anyway as I have heard her slag of other neighbours.

Anyway I had about 5 big tubs of Dreamies that I had brought for my sisters cat last Christmas, but it turned out that the cat wasn’t able to have dry food anymore so they have just been sat here since last Christmas (they go out of date in December).

The older couple who live a few doors down are always lovely and friendly when I see them so I gave the Dreamies to them as they gave 2 cats.

Now I have heard that my NDN is offended that I didn’t offer her some tubs and how I am being funny with her etc.
A neighbour heard/saw all of this on Ringdoor and told my NDN.

AIBU to not of offered her the Dreamies?

Is this for real?

I barely even know my neighbours' names 😅

You must really love your sisters cat, why 5 tubs??

Yes it’s for real lol.
We we live in a terraced cul de sac, everyone knows everyone’s business etc.

Your dreamies, your choice.

Make sure you tell the nosey witch spying on the ring.

I am shaking my head multiple times at this to try and clear the ridiculousness. I almost must have it wrong?. You bought something you no longer wanted, you went up the street to give it to someone you liked and you know that they would be happy for it. But someone completely unrelated caught you doing that on camera, and "reported you" to someone else, who then felt injustice because she felt she had some sort of claim on it. We've got a whatsapp on our street (established during covid) and it works OK apart from the odd over the top rant (normally nothing to do with the street) but surely this is madness ?

As someone who barley even so much as curves a smile at my neighbours on our cul-de-sac because we all just ignore each other/mind our business, this is so funny to me. I'd just ignore her or ask if you've done something to offend her if she confronts you (which I doubt she will?) The neighbour reporting you is strange too, way too invested!

Some neighbours are reptiles - and thats an insult to reptiles which I quite like.

Be cooly civil but avoid any closer interaction as much as possible. I dont know my neighbours names. They dont know mine (unless they have the intelligence to look on the land registry) as I am not on the public electoral role. Nor am I on social media.

🤣 love this. So one busybody is spying on her neighbours through her ringdoor. And then tells crazy catlady about you bringing gifts to a neighbour. Now crazy entitled Lady is upset you didn't bring her something.

I would start making biscuits and show them infront of the ringdoor neighbour and then bring them to nice neighbours. See what happens next. This is hilarious.

Meh, who cares what the unpleasant neighbour thinks? You don't have a relationship with her so it's unlikely to ever come up in conversation. You gave something she might have liked to someone you actually talk to. Your street sounds insufferable though - too many busybodies.

Intelligence?

If a neighbour looked at the land registry to find out my name they'd be a freak!

You obviously don't owe anything to your NDN, even if she were friendly. The neighbour who 'tattled' on you is just as bad as the kooky NDN. Is she the one who kindly told you that NDN is offended?

I'd avoid both the 'stirrer' and the grumpy nut. Most likely NDN will content herself with giving you nasty looks, but if she complains or drops heavy hints that her own cat/cats would have liked some of the freebies, I'd say that you'll keep that in mind if it ever comes up again, then promptly forget all about it and buy extra treats to give to the friendly neighbours' cats as often as I pleased.

I really don’t like the idea of eavesdropping via Ring doorbell then reporting on people to cause trouble.

Yes the street is full of nosy people , there is a group of them who all stand there gossiping about everyone (I have heard them).

The only nice one is the older couple who always talk to me and don’t gossip about anyone else.

The other 4 have their own clique and WhatsApp group which me or the other neighbour are in.

The couple have now invited me for a cuppa, which is bound to cause even more gossip no doubt lol.

I dont know my neighbours at all.
Just a quick morning or hello if i see them.

Tell her to dreamie on

Sorry I’m still stuck on the five tubs of dreamies Christmas present. Please explain 😂

I love my sisters cat, someone had dumped her a few Christmases ago and she kept coming to our front door/ green house every day, took her to the vet to hand her in but we didn’t have the heart and kept her (parents house).
I have since moved out and had a baby.

She loves Dreamies so I brought her 5 tubs to eat as a treat over the year or so.