AIBU to think society needs to stop admiring old money?

[TheTidyReader]

Me and DH are both "new money", not uber rich but multimillionaires in our thirties. We've spent a lot of time around other wealthy people and there seems to be no bigger joke than those who've inherited it

Often very racist/backwards
Clearly not intelligent/capable enough of getting here themselves
Look down on average people more often, despite the fact they are average people themselves
Far more likely to do disgusting sex crimes

This isn't the case all the time, but the difference is very clear. AIBU to wonder why when all this is true the people who've actually got here on merit are the more disliked group?

What would a multimillionaire in their 30s be doing on mumsnet on a Monday night

Was your application for membership of the yacht club rejected or something?

YABU to think that anybody 'admires' people for having been born into money. Why would they?

Sounds tough mate. At least you can cheer yourself up by telling people about being a multimillionaire in your 30s.

Why do you think you need people’s approval? Do you have self esteem problems?

This. I don't particularly admire millionaires in their 30s either.

Society needs to stop admiring ALL money. It's shallow and crass. As is talking about your fabulous wealth for no apparent reason.

Do you have a little notebook in which you record whether someone is from old or new money when they commit a sex crime?

I don’t think that’s society in general, just you being surrounded by people who think a lot of themselves and want to feel even more special by having someone to look down on. They can’t openly look down on anyone else without being accused of snobbery.

You need to socialise with nicer people and avoid talking about money.

Well of course they don't need to "do it themselves" if they've inherited it. If I inherited a country pile and a trust fund worth millions, I'd be on Mumsnet all day, not out there trying to prove to new money that I can do it myself....

Oh dear

Does society admire old money? I have noticed recently that there is a trend for deprecating certain fashions associated with celebrity in favour of "how to look like old money" tweed is fashionable again. I think its linked to our lurch to the right politically, coupled with the fact that most people are beginning to feel the tide is up to their knees and life is becoming increasingly difficult. Class is a thing, and its weird that fashion is now trying to emulate old money/wealth in the guise of "having class" or looking like "you have class" it invites ordinary people to admire the aesthetic, but its another form of subtle ideology that tries to convey that class is something other than objective reality, and that the working class should aspire to be like their overlords. The juxtaposition of trashy new money celebrity beside the classic old money aesthetic conveys the fact that we should admire the latter, things have changed because you can no longer aspire to be the former. But if anyone knows anything about class, you can't simply plaster lipstick on a pig, and that its quite frankly a lie to think that we live in a society of equal opportunity. The closest most come to escaping their life as waged slaves is buying tweed jackets from H&M, probably all the while waving an England flag. Cos, ya know, money doesn't buy class.......apparently, but we sure are obsessed with it even if we don't understand it and think its a cultural phenomena about preferences.

Me, I don't like the self made, or the established, both have benefited from the labour of others, enriching themselves whilst impoverishing the many.

If you don't like the circles of people you have to mix with, why not give it all away to charity and make your success count for something other than shoring up your planet sized ego.

Brilliant post

I admire people who have achieved something. I was listening to a podcast from Professor Dame Lesley Regan earlier. She was (astonishingly) the first female president of the royal college of gynae and obstetrics since Dame Hilda Lloyd in the 40s (its first female president) and she did a lot of work in making women’s healthcare more about the whole woman, not just about childbearing. So as a result we know more about our periods and our menopause than before her.

You sound a bit insecure OP

People with 'old money' tend to be achingly polite and have exceptionally good manners. They would certainly never sink so low as to publicly speak so contemptuously of others. That would never do in polite company.

I have met a Duke and Duchess several times. They are absolutely delightful and extremely courteous people.

I also know several Nouveau Riche (as in self-made multi-millions rich) people. Nice to your face, but they can turn on a sixpence and I wouldn't trust them any further than I could throw a wardrobe.

Sweeping generalisations are ignorant and foolish, regardless of whether they come from those with old money or new.

I have two friends who are genuinely old money. One is running several businesses from the family estate. He employs about 150 people in an area where jobs are few. He never stops.

The other works harder than anyone I know.

They certainly don't feel the need to discuss their financial situation or to criticise people they don't know.

OP, might be worth spending a few quid from your millions to take lessons in grammar and punctuation.

The only pandering to 'old money' I have seen is on MN. Never in real life so the crux of ur arguement is lost on me. Also lots of generalisations in your OP, not a fan of generalising and stereotyping.

Surely you can’t be that dense to make such a sweeping assumption? 🙄

I am one of the inheritance people. I am very liberal minded thanks. And nothing like the stereotype you’ve posted about.

I think youre right. I dont look up to rich people at all, but i do think the old money/new money thing is classist bullshit, and its weird. Its like a caste. You wont ever scrub off your working classness you peasant!

Not new.
Not creative.
Not believable.
Not big.
Not clever.
Low effort.

Go to your room and think about yourself OP. See if you can come up with something better.

Except you wouldn't, because you'd have to spend a fair chunk of time working how to fund and maintain your old pile to keep it standing up, let alone going for the next generation.

Not uber rich but a multimillionaire 🙄
What qualifies as uber rich exactly?