For context: I’m trying to support a friend of mine who has been in an unhappy relationship for the last 3 and a half / four years. I just don’t understand it, she walks on egg shells around him, he controls her, we’ve had the “I’m going to leave” chat so many times… yet she won’t.
They have a toddler together, they’re engaged. I can imagine this makes things ten times harder.
He called her names the other day and basically said he was going to chuck her out because she’s “clearly cheating” (she was just going for dinner and drinks with our other mutual friend). But then she begs for him to stay? Rather than tell him he’s a looney.
I’m just really struggling to know how to best support her, I’m starting to get to the point where when she moans about him I want to say “what do you expect” or “he won’t change” and that I can’t help her. I have had serious discussions about her safety and that she deserves more but she won’t ever make that jump to leave.
It’s upsetting seeing her like this.