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To think that this was blown out of proportion?

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confusedlady10 · 22/09/2025 13:59

Long story so sorry. I work as a senior customer service employee in a call centre (which basically means I get paid more as I train new starters, give help to employees on a call they are stuck on/floor support and I am allowed to occasional cover management if they are off as an emergency).

Yesterday I was helping to cover the phones and a customer called back to check whether she would still get a refund for something as she said the agent she spoke to seemed unsure of what she was doing. I check what the agent had filed and could see the form they filed was filed somewhere strange in a process I would never do so told the customer I would chase it up for them but for now followed the timescale based on what the agent filed.

Then I checked with my manager who agreed that it was filed wrong which will impact the customer getting a refund so told me to message the agent. I did and politely asked if they could double check with their manager to make sure if was filed correctly, and if not to re-file and call customer back, or if they are happy with it to just leave it with the timescale I quoted anyway. I wasn’t rude or pushy and just wanted to make sure I was giving the customer the correct info about guaranteeing a refund and even put a smile at the end.

They said they would with a smile emoji back and I left it at that. Then I go to clock out for the day later, and I get a teams call from another senior colleague who is covering as team leader for that agent’s team. She tells me that I shouldn’t have messaged her agent as her agent was new and shaken up to the point of crying and upset by my message and that her agent had done nothing wrong and she was happy with how the claim was filed. She told me it wasn’t my business to message her and I have shaken her confidence especially as I was in the wrong. She then tells me I need to apologise and to personally message the agent to apologise.

I simply said it was not my intention to offend the agent but to make sure the customer was given the correct outcome and that I stressed at the time that she didn’t even have to re-file the claim if her manager (I guess this person) was ok with it and just to run it past someone just in case. She didn’t accept my response and has now sent a strongly worded email to my manager’s manager tagging me in it.

After checking the claim today, it’s still pending, which to me means the customer won’t be refunded anyway as normally it would have moved to a different queue within 2 hours. Should I say anything or just leave it or do you think I was in the wrong here? Feels weird to go through all this. I am thinking to just message the agent now and apologise but just feels all so dramatic and too late. Fully prepared to be told I could BU in any case. Just curious really.

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Jumpinginwithbothfeet · 22/09/2025 14:06

You did what your manager told you to do, so you did nothing wrong and it sounds like you worded it just fine.

AnSolas · 22/09/2025 14:19

You could have ended the call inviting her to contact your manager directly.

If you ran everything by your manager ( as in your opinion the original case was not managed within the agreed process ) you did nothing wrong. Your contact may be tone policed but if its factual and open question based and not "assiging" blame it should be a non-issue.

I would suspect that this will highlight a training process issue. Either you or the other manager are not "going by the book" when dealing with this individual customers issue.

Ablondiebutagoody · 22/09/2025 15:25

Considering they have now been dragged into it, I would have a quick chat with your managers manager. You have done nothing wrong.

confusedlady10 · 22/09/2025 21:52

AnSolas · 22/09/2025 14:19

You could have ended the call inviting her to contact your manager directly.

If you ran everything by your manager ( as in your opinion the original case was not managed within the agreed process ) you did nothing wrong. Your contact may be tone policed but if its factual and open question based and not "assiging" blame it should be a non-issue.

I would suspect that this will highlight a training process issue. Either you or the other manager are not "going by the book" when dealing with this individual customers issue.

I am 100% sure my process is correct. Will be checking the outcome again tomorrow as by now then the customer should have been 100% refunded. Was shocked and made to feel like an evil person. In the end I have forwarded the email to my manager tagging in their manager apologising for my intentions but they were off today. Was sneaky of that person to go and tag my manager's manager and avoid them all together but sigh this is so dramatic Waiting for response from ether.

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Hankunamatata · 22/09/2025 22:03

Total storm in a teacup. Well the senior colleague is a bit of an ass arnt they. Im guessing they got in a strop dealing with the overly emotional new start and vented at you.
Make sure you send the whole email chain to your manager to show your message was asking them to check, not demanding they were wrong. If they cut handle emails like that they shouldn't be in work

Bundleflower · 22/09/2025 22:07

Storm in a teacup. I wouldn’t waste a moment fretting - forward all to your manager and relax.

AnSolas · 22/09/2025 22:10

Going to your managers manager suggests there is a prior history between the two (?) or the other manager is into power games.

If you are happy that your process is correct I would go hands off the transaction unless an instruction comes down your management line. And only keep your manager updated on the process stage and let them make any decision to act.

If the other manager wants to screw you over the single customer contact leave the ownership of the transaction within her team.

TrimayrAcademy · 22/09/2025 22:29

What a bizarre situation. I would speak to your manager about the other manager going over their head.

It all seems a bit playground and somewhere in the mix is a customer awaiting a refund!

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