To not apologise for partner feeling left out

[Itsmeeee888]

my partner and I can’t stop arguing over who is right here and I feel he is unreasonable and abusive over the way he acted ! Basically went to a friend of mines wedding so granted he knew no one there except my friend ( the groom from uni days ) so can understand he was a bit uncomfortable but I didn’t really know anyone either . Anyway , got talking to someone I had met 15 years ago as a teenager through the groom . My partner stood in the conversation and did make some small talk but obviously didn’t engage as much … even though I felt like I tried to include him . I got bored of the convo and went to toilet . Came out expecting him to stil be talking to the same person or at least still outside yet when I when outside the groom called me over so being polite I went over quickly to say hello and chat thinking my partner may have gone to the bar or toilet and would come find me . Then he comes over and makes up and emergency ( basically saying we need to leave ) I didn’t realise he was sitting opposite side of the room just watching me as I felt obligated to see my friend the groom etc … in the car on the way home ( he was drunk and me sober ) he screamed at me the whole hour and half way home saying how left out he felt and how I didn’t care about him etc etc ! Which is not true I was just trying to make convo and trying to get him to join in ! He then even opened the door mid motorway causing me to pull over !! I’m an extremely nervous motorway driver and suffer panic attacks and he knows this ! Finally stopped at traffic lights after him arguing with me and he just jumps out and legs it !! I drive off thinking to leave him calm down to then come back and he gets in the car refusing me to get out and listen to him arguing ! This argument is going over and over about how I’m wrong in leaving him out and not caring about his feelings and how I need to apologise but I completely refuse to apologise as I feel I’ve done nothing wrong !! Or have I ?? I knows it’s annoying listening to peoples convos but he completely over reacted in my opinion and he could have engaged more as it was more general chit chat about kids and life etc 😩

Sorry op, I’ve just seen some of your updates.

• Report every single thing to the police for their records. No matter how small. You need a paper trail. That includes the event that you explained to us.
• keep a record of everything. Screenshot any messages that will provide evidence, etc.
• Get a ring doorbell and security cameras for your address. Even a panic alarm.
• Go to women’s aid for help. Or call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline. Sometimes they can help with covering the cost of the cameras.

You urgently need professional help. Report everything he does to the police every time. I think women’s aid is the place to go for more useful advice. You’re in a scary position right now, but it is possible to escape, others have done it before you. Do you have anyone in real life who can support you?

Hi yes I do . I have some close family and friends who I’ve been talking too but they live far away unfortunately 😩

He is dangerous to be around and abusive.

His claims were ridiculous.

Please leave him @Itsmeeee888 rven if he apologises without trying to direct blame on you,
A "second chance" is not worth the risk to you.

Please get rid of this angry arsehole.

Please start thinking clearly and acting decisively. Realistically how likely do you think it is that a Family Court Judge, who will have seen it all before, will give custody of a small girl to man with a restraining order against him? He will be lucky if he's allowed supervised contact!
The police have already had to take you away from him for your safety.
Speak to Women's Aid and take it from there. Follow their advice.

You need to leave this arsehole. He's had his second chance! He's abusive and controlling and you need to kick him to the kerb before he ends up killing you.