What do you find 'sexy'

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Im a heterosexual woman married with 2 kids (3 and 1)

I am asking this just curiously really. My DH said to me I havrnt put an effort in my appearance in ages which I havent I guess? I just straighten my hair and put it in a bun or ponytail. I dont wear makeup really and I dont go OTT with fashion as id rather ensure the kids have good quality stuff.

Physically wise id say my figure is my favourite its been. My boob's aren't huge but they haven't sagged yet. My bums quite peachy im a size 12 and felt confident

I got botox recently to help prevent lines etc (im 27)

But I dont know maybe because we met and I was young and constantly did my hair makeup had lots of different outfits and we we t on dates so obviously I wore short dresses, low cut stuff etc

What do you find sexy?

Kim K but more dior/Ralph Lauren

I’d give my right arm to look like Michelle Keegan but I’ve settled for my Zelda from the Terrahwaks look

Wit, good humor, a nuanced sense of irony, intelligence, thoughtfulness, an empathetic imagination, instinctive kindness, well developed communication skills. And a wide vocabulary.
Tall and slim are both nice, too, but all the first mentioned qualities are non-negotiable; physical stuff less important

Woah. Woah. Woah.
What does your husband do to make you feel desired?
You are not an object to be criticized.
Botox at 27? Ridiculous.

I’m quite intrigued by what he means. If your figure is the happiest you’ve ever been, you’ve done something to achieve that? Botox - that’s putting some effort in. He obviously means you don’t put make up on etc or revealing clothing but like… what’s he done to put the effort in for you? Does he look like a Calvin klein advert at bedtime or is he wearing the same boxers since last Xmas with holes in them?

Bit of a tough one to ask - cant really think of anything atm. We had a night away where finally someone would babysit the kids (not many family want to) and he said he wanted to have sex with me

And it felt normal ish but it wasnt like wow youre gorgeous etc or obsessing over me it was kissing and 2 mins done lol

The botox is more to prevent lines I've got a lot of movement on my forehead xx

You sound very attractive. What does he find sexy?

Men that love me the way I am

Botox at 27? No, come on, please don’t do that - you don’t have wrinkles and it isn’t preventative. Sexiness works in both directions. What does he do to make you feel desired? Has he organised a date night away from family life so that he can romance you?

I assume its the makeup/clothes I wear but he sees me either with the kids or working from home. So I tend to dress comfy and have no makeup on

We barely get to do dates as family dont usually want to mind the 2 kids at once. Dont have any friends we'd have babysit either

So its hard for him to say that when hes comparing to me being early 20s no kids all tbe time in the world to get ready etc

I doubt he makes any effort whatsoever to be attractive to you, but you’re expected to have Botox and dress up everyday and do your hair and make up and…
He just sounds immature and beyond shallow. There is far more to attraction than ‘sexiness’ and bloody make up 🤦🏼‍♀️

I can't say I was bothered about looking sexy when my kids were that age (mind you I'm not really bothered now they are 16 and 19!)
Surely he appreciates that life and priorities change.

Blimey, he sounds like a bit of an arse OP! A husband who respects you and is making an equal amount of effort with two young kids would understand why you don’t feel the need to dress up right now.

A good partner will look at you even when you’re exhausted, in second hand stained clothes and haven’t showered, and still find you beautiful. You don’t and shouldn’t need to make an effort or have Botox in order for your partner to find you attractive.

It’s nice to have date nights and excuses to dress up, but that’s something he could organise for you if he wanted it. There’s nothing stopping him booking a babysitter and a restaurant and taking you out somewhere if he wants to have a bit more of a special time.

I'd love to know the secret. I loved my OH and found no else sexy but her in whatever sense of dress or undress she chose! But no matter what I tried I obviously failed to make her feel sexy, so she looked elsewhere, often! And dressed as I never got to see her!

Can I pick this apart?

Everyone has movement in their face unless they've had a stroke. Botox is fine, but doing it so young really sets you up to hate your natural face.
You got a sitter fir an overnight f-fest with your dh, so you shoulda been all over eachother. Instead, you're like, meh.
It sounds to me like you've got a husband problem. You birthed two of his kids. He should kuss the ground you walk on. Seriously.
I don't know you, but I would put money on you being a great mum and wife. And you are likely hot as well.
Take a long look in the mirror at your stunning self and tell your dh he needs to do better.

Personally I find the mum look really attractive, there’s something really sexy about it and knowing how much hard work and love needs to be given to a child I wouldn’t expect any less than comfortable clothes and hair tied up.

😂

You’re 27. You’re hot as fuck. Seriously, you’re beautiful. I’d give my eye teeth to look the way I looked at 27. You’re a busy mother of two - does he expect you to be teetering around in high heels with a face full of make up? Does he still look like he did when you first met? Do you get time to yourself? Does he support you?

Has he had botox too?

No time to myself and nope he doesnt but I dont know for me I find lots attractive like sense of humour, being kind, a man who appreciates a woman who does a lot for him like when you see men who worship their OH and appreciate everything

Men who are really good with their kids and you can just see it

Looks obviously play a part but for me its like the things like that