To complain to my mom

[Kate8889]

When I was 9, my mom remarried to a man who had two daughters - 6 and 8yo. They were only with us for holidays.

Every Christmas (for 8+ years), I would receive 2-3 practical presents (a coat and shoes for example) while they would open up 10-15 fun presents each in front of me. I told my mom that she should have taken me on a walk or elsewhere so I wouldn't have to see them opening presents while I got very little.

She said I should have understood that we were struggling and not been so immature about it.

It was very insensitive of both your mum and stepdad, the presents should have been opened in the house that his two daughters lived in…..not sure who was worse, your mother or your stepfather

I brought it up because her third husband has grandkids and I wanted to make sure that at least as far as the children realized, they would be treated the same present/holiday wise. If any extra presents are to be given only to biological grandkids, it should be without my daughter present.

And…. What did she say?

She said of course it wouldn't be an issue

Ok so…. She was generally a good mum
she’s reassured you that your daughter won’t be sidelined

op, I think it’s time to rid yourself of this particular resentment. Yes it was crap of her but she was a good mum you say for the rest of the year so let these few Christmases go