Ex issues

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ThisRealDenimGuide · 20/09/2025 18:31

Hi,
my ex and I recently split after 15 years and 1 child. It wasn’t working and we split amicably.
He has met someone new -which is fine I want him to be happy. His new gf has children too.
He wants to take our child on holiday with the new woman and her kids. I said no purely on the basis of my son has never meeting this woman before or her kids and it’s a new relationship (5 weeks) I don’t want him getting attached if it doesn’t work out.
He said I was being unfair.
Am I being unreasonable??

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ThisRealDenimGuide · 10/08/2026 13:18

SummerInSun · 21/09/2025 10:56

Your poor DS. From your post it sounds like the split is relatively recent. Your DS is probably still reeling from that. He should be having quality one on one time with his Dad to reassure him that his dad still loves him and puts him first, not having to watch his dad play happy families with some new kids he met five minutes ago. I don’t think your DS is going to get super attached to these complete strangers in a one week holiday, but I’d also say no in the basis of the harm it could do your DS’s self-esteem. Your ex sounds like a jerk, frankly, if he can’t see that if he had custody over half term he should be using that to spend time just with your DS. If he can afford a holiday, it is DS he should be taking away.

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its like he can’t be bothered to spend time with his son. My DS is confused as to why his dad doesn’t want to see him and it breaks my heart.

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grumpygrape · 10/08/2026 14:13

ThisRealDenimGuide · 10/08/2026 13:18

its like he can’t be bothered to spend time with his son. My DS is confused as to why his dad doesn’t want to see him and it breaks my heart.

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It's nearly a year since your OP, did the holiday happen and what is the current position between your ex and your son ?

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