AIBU reasonable partner meeting up with ex

[Bertha1924]

AIBU to be annoyed that my partner of two years is meeting up with his estranged wife. To put it in context, they have been separated for over 7 years but have stayed in touch. She lives quite far away and is coming to London for a short trip. They are going to meet up for a drink and she will be staying at his place (he spends most of the time at my place). He says I am being unreasonable to be jealous and says he doesn’t have to justify himself for meeting up. I have been cheated on in the past so perhaps I am being unreasonable - am I?

Absolutely not id be ok with the drink I wouldn't be ok with her sleeping at his especially after several drinks

Absolutely not being unreasonable. I bet he wouldn't be so cool about it if we're you having your ex staying over?

He's not really your partner if he's still another woman's husband and she's visiting, having a date with him, and staying at his place.

Exit left.

How very conjugal.

He won’t be staying at his place with her - he’ll be at my place. He said it would be cheaper for her to stay at his place rather than an hotel.

So he’s still married? Nice.

Why aren't they divorced if they've been separated over 7 years?

Well if they’re meeting up to discuss an amicable and quick divorce so he can move on with you then it’s totally fine. Anything else, then no.

Just trying to explain the situation …: He’s a bit laid back with getting on with things and said he’s just never got round to getting a divorce and the reason he’s meeting up with her is to discuss the divorce. She has moved on and is with another partner. They were married for 20 years and they have been friends for 30 years. He said he was being honest about her visit because he didn’t want to hide anything from me. I honestly don’t know how I feel about this because if my ex partner visited the UK Ihe said he wouldn’t be upset with me meeting up.

In that case I can’t see there’s an issue as per my PP. Nice gesture from him to offer her somewhere to stay since he’ll be with you that night. And helps keep the relationship friendly which is important in divorce proceedings.
If it was me I wouldn’t worry.

I'd have absolutely no problem with this in that case.

Sounds fine to me, I wouldn't worry

After all that information (drip feed) YABU.

Yeah I've managed to change my vote because I'm on desktop.

But some people say they can't do that on the app.

With the context provided it sounds ok, I wouldn't have an issue with it. I would be more concerned that 7 years on they are only starting to talk about divorce. Especially given he's been in a relationship with you for 2 years of that.

Maybe she wants to price things up in his flat to work out what to ask for in the divorce.